Domestic Violence also known as Intimate Partner Violence has so many different aspects to it; https://thecaribbeancurrent.com/domestic-violence-a-case-of-vigilante-justice/
Relationships are little systems of usually two people impacting each other within a broader system impacting the couple. How could we then look only at one side when considering elimination violent behaviors. Is it that emotional violence is a softer violence? And what about when women do it to each other, or do we just want to eliminate violence coming from men?
Missing out pieces of the puzzle makes it almost impossible to solve!
Everyone of us has a family of origin. This family has shaped our attitudes, behaviours and biology. Time taken to understand it and for others coming into the family to understand it and work on improving ‘natural family tendencies’ can support our mental health and that of future generations.
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So let’s ‘fool’ around with our family of origin, get to know understand it and play with some new ways of being
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November 19th was #InternationalMensDay when the time is taken to celebrate our men making a positive contribution to the family and other areas of society. We begin by sharing an interview with one man who overcame the trials of coming from an abusive home to providing a safe and secure emotional and otherwise for his girls
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It’s human to have a need for Power. We all have it men women and children. When we think of leaders and politics we understand very clearly the dangers of abuse of power. Often we might not appreciate that our intimate relationships also involves politics and power. Politics has to do with rule and power. In relationships, we allow space for partners to rule and share power. For example, a couple might decide to share the rule over finances. household chores or they might share the rule of the household giving specific areas to one partner or the other. In relationships generally because of partners care, love and respect for each other, each is able to influence the other; that’s power.
In abusive relationships, the politics of love means basically being with a ‘destructive dictator’ who allows no say from those that they rule over (their partner). Power is often gotten by instilling fear in the partner and any perceived ‘crimes’ are dealt with by extreme punishment. It is best to know the signs to not get into an abusive relationship in the first place.
But if already in one it is possible still to develop a BMW relationship… Build More Wonderful relationships in the future either with or without the same partner, each situation is different…
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- Now can you make a connection between the picture and the title of the blog? for most of us, it’s a clear no…
- Well, how do so many people make a connection between themselves and getting another person to change? Can we really change anhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9XDVvAlYH0other person? But often what these ladies and some men too say, is they can ‘fix’ the person, love them to become the person they notice when they look at them, love them into healing…
- But know this … change must come from a willingness within the person and some never will feel a need to change
- So we go along hoping to fix the other person
6. In ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS… Trying to change another TO “FIX” them, is like trying to speak another language that the other person would never understand… because
7. Often in these relationships, the abuser plays on their partner’s dedication and desire to build a happy home by promising to change… but true change comes from within and often unfortunately many who abuse (not all) are resistant to change
**** so to all the fixer-uppers*** people are not things and the flip side of abuse sometimes is that the partner who desires to fix needs to let go or change or flip that whole idea to even begin to open the door to deal with the domestic violence***
Abuse is Abuse is Abuse!!!!!!! But even so when we notice that the girl/woman is “pretty” by most standards, we really wonder…
Here’s the Ugly truth! We, the society, well-meaning go off complimenting and complimenting and that pretty girl loses all her other beautiful qualities…and becomes a ‘pretty thing’ …and if she were a real thing that would be okay… but truth is a person as a ‘pretty thing’ actually feels quite unworthy and of little value beyond that 1 thing…
So let’s remember to not just make the ‘pretty’ feel ‘pretty’ but beautiful outside and