Moving you forward one step at a time

Blog

While we are becoming a smaller and smaller global village with each advancement in technology, some customs and cultures remain very regional.

Cannabis Global Culture

Cannabis or Marijuana is one of the most widely used drugs in the World https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/media-guide/most-commonly-used-addictive-drugs 

Now with the global move to explore more of medical marijuana use and to legalize it, cannabis appeal would widen https://www.marketwatch.com/press-release/cannabis-reaches-new-demographics-due-to-its-medical-appeal-2019-03-14-920200 

Surely a plant, a “herb”, some say “healing of the nations” being put to good use must be a good thing.

Cannabis in Caribbean Culture

Apart from its medical uses, recreational use of marijuana remains for most its real appeal. Within the Caribbean context, where, ‘chilling out’, ‘liming’, ‘hanging out’ is a standard stress-buster, alcoholic drinks are often included as the relaxing substance.

Aside in private, with the current criminalization of cannabis or marijuana, similar stress-buster ‘chill outs’ ‘limes’ ‘hanging out’ take place in private with marijuana being the relaxing substance.

Now, with the movements to decriminalize and/or legalize marijuana, soon we would find marijuana being included in Friday night limes, legitimate parties etc.

What makes Marijuana so special?

We use alcohol and cigarettes, as socially-acceptable drugs, so what’s the big deal with marijuana?

Firstly, let’s review the definition of a drug; “a chemical that has a therapeutic effect on a disease or its symptoms” …

It’s already established that a drink or two, creates a relaxing feeling and helps many unwind.

Think of marijuana, then as 10X over alcohol and here is why, there are chemicals in the marijuana that mimic the work of prescribed drugs for anxiety-related mental health concerns. So in other words marijuana might be thought of as a ‘naturally occurring anti-anxiety self-medicating drug’. https://www.livescience.com/58353-marijuana-chemical-cannabidiol-could-help-fight-anxiety.html

Legalized Marijuana a Teen Treat

With the legalization and decriminalization of marijuana, now more and more teens can comfortably easily access an anti-anxiety “pull”, stress-at-home, social-anxiety, relationship challenges…you name it!

But along with its anti-anxiety self-medicating treat are the subtle dangers…

Marijuana repeatedly found to possibly provoke psychotic-like responses in vulnerable populations. During teen time the brain is yet developing…how do we now reach the teen in time who might be showing real symptoms of a mental health concern before self-medicating and potentially casing more harm to their mental well-being?

Caribbean Cure

Furthermore among a region with a preference for religious-oriented approaches to address most day-day concerns, we now add an easy-to-get, stress buster, as one client put it….

“when I take my little ‘pull’ I feel so good, so relaxed, then I take a few minutes and back at it again”

Meanwhile the concern remains unaddressed, but the anxiety it provoked is reduced for the while, and it can be done again, and again and again…

More and more then counselling in the Caribbean would be a thing for those who dare, for the courageous who would endure momentary discomfort, for greater comfort in time to come http://www.karryonservices.com/therapy/

Sports Top 10

In the world of sports, like in the world of music there are the popular songs and then those we occasionally hear. In the world of sports, the ones we hear about and follow most, in or out of season, in or out of Olympics or a main sporting event are;

baseball, basketball, table tennis, volleyball, football, cricket, field hockey, rugby, golf, tennis https://www.worldatlas.com/articles/what-are-the-most-popular-sports-in-the-world.html

Then there are sports like swimming. Yes, of course for Olympics we know of those who excel like Michael Phelps https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7bj_LUIY7Y 

Swimming, Desire & Social Pressure of Sport

But let us be honest for a moment here, the top 10 sports deal with a “sexiness” of their own, meaning the sport itself draws the crowds. For swimming though, where does the average mind go, is it not to swimsuits illustrated.

https://www.si.com/swimsuit/subcategory/50+Greatest+Swimsuit+Models

So swimming athletes like Phelps who won his 19th Olympic gold medal and like retired Trinidadian swimmer George Bovell must maintain a different DESIRE level from sportsperson in other fields.

Desire by the way, is that push in the athlete for success and to strive for excellence in their sport. It is easy to love the sport of swimming, but after meeting the social pressures that come with being an “underdog-sport” (reduced financing, reduced recognitions) it is easy to move into hobby-mode. No wonder Bovell later in his career supported future swimmers striving for professional sport status with the introduction of “The “George Bovell Dive In Free Swim Clinics 2015” were held at facilities in St. James, Macoya and San Fernando over January 15-17th, with the prestigious athletes teaching training methods, skills and drills with the purpose of not only encouraging the young attendees within the sport of swimming, but by also offering up hope and inspiration as they interacted and collaborated with the participants.” https://swimswam.com/george-bovell-visionary-sport/

Because the swimmer must not only begin with desire BUT MAINTAIN DESIRE to even reach a point of;

Confidence, Self-Discipline & Consistency

https://www.ranker.com/list/best-olympic-athletes-in-swimming/voteable

and so in some sports more than ever, or should we say especially in u.s.a. (not USA) (underdog sporting activities), the athletes sporting psyche becomes more important than ever! http://www.karryonservices.com/coaching-services/ 

 

Enjoyed being around lots of children yesterday from tiny tot to terrific teens (or maybe for some parents, it sometimes ‘the terrifying teen’ lol) either way, one question came to mind; are our children being raised to conquer their World?

Our New World

Children of today find themselves in a World the actually gives them little time for ‘child’s play’, let me explain. Very early in the child’s life they directly or indirectly and increasingly would be being made aware of the dangers around. Even if parents try to ‘hide’ the media is everywhere and in every form. Yet parents remain with the responsibility of helping their children feel safe and secure. And for children to develop healthy, literally to keep a sound sane mind, they need a sense of safety and security.

Parenting Dilemma

The parenting dilemma then is how to move beyond making children feel safe to putting things in place to keep them safe. And here in comes the sometimes intentional and sometimes unintentional ‘overprotectiveness’ of some parents. But some might say, “in today’s World we must…to safeguard children”. But the thing to remember is as parents we are raising the adults of tomorrow, so eventually these now children must move off and deal with this New World.

So ‘overprotection’… how do we recognize it?

P—Paralysis … if or when our approach as parents lead to our children’s ‘paralysis’ meaning that they become ‘fearful’ of taking action because they feel unable to without parent’s presence (relative to the age of the child of course) or because they consider a situation more scary than it is then… it’s ‘overprotection’ (instehttps://ct.counseling.org/2018/02/parenting-21st-century/#ad)

P—Protection promotes progress … the child who feels protected in the right measure, moves out confidently and explores new activities and actions (again relative to their age), knowing that if needed they could easily turn to parents for assistance and guidance

But even with that being said it is an ongoing process as parents … it’s helpful then to check-in with ourselves sometimes to ensure our parenting protection is being given in good measure http://www.karryonservices.com/ ….tune in next week for the “A”


What’s trending? Whatever it is chances are it’s something we get pleasure from talking about or feel comfortable exploring.

While many are continuing in marital bliss, there is a growing group who remain significantly silent;

“The news is not good for black women when it comes to finding a partner. Where not long ago there were roughly two married women to every single woman, those numbers have gradually reversed over the past few decades—now, more than 60 percent of black women have either never married or are divorced.” https://www.amazon.com/Sole-Sisters-Pains-Single-Black/dp/193284127X

What many are not saying?

Ava an attractive young lady was pleased to finally meet someone she could now build an ongoing committed relationship with. And what would you know, he was also of the same race. They dated, moved in together and eventually married. A few years later, the cheating began.

Brenda an attractive female after being friends with this guy for years, found herself in a relationship with him. After some months, thinking they were on the same wave-length, Brenda realized he wanted more time ‘to play the field’.

What is similar with Ava and Brenda?

They are both ‘black women’. And now form a growing part of that group of women never married or divorced. What Ava and Brenda said;

  • when would more ‘black males’ reject the subtle and not so subtle training mainly targeted @ them to ‘play the field’ and objectify women
  • how do black women contend with the trend of making non-black women more appealing to ‘black males’ lessening the already depleted pool of black males who are high in numbers in our prisons and increasing choosing homosexuality
  • does it even matter what black women think?

Ms. Independent

Both Ava and Brenda carryon living and loving their lives and enjoying their independence. Yet again what they silently note but don’t say;

  • the idea of the ‘independent black woman’ is also being used against them to suggest that ‘they been single so long, they won’t know what to do with a good man’
  • being independent also puts them at risk as they get older, for liberated younger men looking for a ‘sugar mama’ and/or at risk from males not yet secure enough to deal with an ‘independent’ female ww.youtube.com/watch?v=h4yhOywnNTw
  • sometimes when they do speak up, they are labeled as ‘mad black women’ (and that’s a thing)

Supporting how you carryon #therapy and #lifecoaching @ contact http://www.karryonservices.com/

Once upon a time, Test Cricket was the true test of the cricket, including the West Indies cricketer. But cricket has and continues to morph/to evolve since the days of Sir Gary Sobers and Viv Richards. Lots of shorter formats being introduced, hold lots of appeal for our younger players. And when it comes to our West Indies cricketers, in our global village, they can now develop their skills, and ply their skills @ choice to International cricket teams far-and-wide.

Our New World of Cricket

To survive and more so to thrive now in our ‘New World of Cricket’ there must be manager-player intimacy or into-me-see. Whether the cricketing manager of pro-league teams or the Executive of the West Indies cricket team, there must be a deeper look at what the cricketer of “today” is facing. How else could the Executive understand how to approach these players and more importantly to keep the appeal of playing for the West Indies.

And this intimacy is what the new West Indies Executive seems able to bring. We look forward!

Integration

Sure the player on the field is important. But cricket is bigger than the present-day players of any team. Cricket in any country is a system. Good systems are able to reproduce a service or product over the long-term. Too often this is what International teams hold over the Caribbean region. However, encouraging evidence comes as we notice ex-West Indies players being brought back to the fold to now support the team in a different capacity. There is also the declared promise (note the term ‘declared promise’) of putting a focus upon the youth in cricket. If in fact this does happen then what we would now be building is a better system around the game.

Implementation

But as with the cricketer, we do not simply want a ‘hope’ of runs, good fielding, bowling and batting but results, so too, with our Executive we look forward to the plans moving off the paper….so we wait and we look on…but for now the I’s definitely hold the key to a brighter future for West Indies crickethttps://www.telegraph.co.uk/cricket/2019/01/19/cricket-west-indies-expensive-business-passion-sport-still-exists/

Life coaching is a partnership between client and life coach to move toward making the desired outcome a reality. So how much is too much to pay to make your dreams come true? 

This is not a high-brand product that might eventually be renewed/replaced or repaired, this is a service that brings to you whatever ‘products’ or tangible outcomes you wish be it in an intimate relationship, a parent-child relationship, on the field in sports, at work, in a buisness… an outcome that would have an avalanche effect of bringing even more great results your way… in other words the rewards are invaluable

Imagine walking up to someone and having a conversation and then they agree with you, to keep working together until you get what you want once you keep your end of the bargain, and you already know you are prepared to keep your end of the bargain…is that not priceless really?

Well that is life coaching for you…so while $200CAD or $1000TTD might on the surface seem like a lot for one coaching session and a follow-up…really how much would you pay to make your desires a reality? http://www.karryonservices.com/coaching-services/

The many faces of Personality

Personality could be described in many ways, some call it charisma, others attitudes and behaviors. Personality in a broad sense is simply those qualities that endure, stand the test of time and lead to a pattern in the way we generally feel, think and operate or behave.

Interestingly enough, eventhough we understand that people have personalities, many of us do get into relationships either hoping or genuinely believing we could change our partners.

Does Personality Change?

From within the womb personality is developing, and that is very real since, our hormones, and genes contributes in some way to our personalities, our natural inclinations. And as we interact the personality is developing. It has been found that the basic structure or basic inclination of our personality, the foundation is formed by about 7 years.

But it does not stop there! Personality is a part of ourselves that is very much alive and constantly being changed in some way by our experiences. 

But what it might help to appreciate though, is that peronality is similar to building a house  its possible to make additions and general changes to the structure 

However eventhough we are able to make those adjustments we are working on a particular house, so some basic foundation aspects of the structure would always remain, also it is easier to make adjustments to some areas of the house than to other areas

but that is not all…another very important thing to recognize is that if the original builders of the house did ‘sloppy work’ that compromised the structure of the house to begin with then the basic structure would be faulty….this is a good way to understand how personality becomes disordered leading to lots of problems in relationships and sometimes the basic sturctural work is truly difficult if not near impossible to fully repair

Generally though for most of us, we are able to embrace our new experiences and sometimes without realizing it make slight or major changes to our personality overtime and/or we can choose to work on adjusting our structure bringing it closer to what we might desire

Therapy often could be a tool to help clear out blocks to making changes to how we would generally think, feel and behave http://www.karryonservices.com/therapy/

When coming to foods having different flavors it is not any matter where we ‘spill the beans’ https://blog.eat24.com/12-hidden-meanings-of-popular-food-phrases/

It is a known fact that foods taste differently. So, having our preferred foods or as we might say in the Caribbean, our favourite ‘dish’ is understandable. But how much do we appreciate that culture-cuisine-connection.

Culture Cuisine Connection

Culture, much more than a ‘go-to’ word to highlight trending habits and behaviors, or to identify different locations, culture is expression. This expression shows itself in many ways, some popular ones are music and fashion, but food is a close third. This blend of culture in our food is what we call ‘cuisine’. So we have Italian Cuisine, French Cuisine and when referring to our own space and place, Local Cuisine. https://food.ndtv.com/recipe-yorkshire-lamb-patties-727503

When we become familiar with the particular style of cooking for a certain culture, we come to know its appearance, smell and taste. One popular cuisine, especially for our early morning, is ‘The Continental Breakfast’.

But how did this style of breakfast become so popular? Firstly, when we talk about a ‘continental breakfast’ we are referring to basically ‘European Cuisine’, in this case to their early morning cuisine. The term could be traced all the way back to 1896 when American hotels were working to satisfy the tastebuds of their many European guests. It was a win-win situation since the European tastebuds were accostumed to light morning meals of their cup of coffee with fruit, a croissant/muffin or some other pastry, and this type of breakfast was quick-preparation. Possibly for both reasons, especially the latter it became a popular hotel breakfast option.

Caribbean Cuisine and Food Tourism    

Some might claim that the American hotels ‘buttered up’ their European guests. No matter how we describe it, a main part of tourism is to have our guests feel welcomed. Of course, part of that is to have the stay or visit feel like home. Since the ‘continental breakfast’ was also easy-preparation time, it probably was ‘a piece of cake’.  Another major aspect of being a tourist though is to add flavor to the person’s or people’s life experience. In that way, its not about life being ‘meat and potatoes’, ‘it’s all gravy’, meaning tourists want the luxury of the new. It is here that Caribbean cuisine comes in http:// https://www.facebook.com/Chef-Barry-2057838904273346/

Bed and Breakfast are especially popular in the Caribbean with the big, made-to-order options for your first meal of the day, or with some gravy filled, highly flavoured luncheon cuisine. But before any more on luncheon cuisine, its important to recognize those regionally recognized breakfast flavors that have crossed shorelines. One thing is for certain the Caribbean is associated with relaxation, beaches and the shade of coconut trees. Similarly ackee, and in particular ackee and saltfish is associated with Jamaica, and ‘doubles’ is considered a must-try Trinidad staple; all have become part of the tourist travel experience.   

While on the topic of breakfast, its also noteworthy that the breakfast coffee for many might actually  

be the Jamaican Blue Mountain Coffee https://www.bluemountaincoffee.com/ and that extra flavour for the more adventurous travel could be found in the Trinidadian Scoprion pepper  https://pepperhead.com/top-10-worlds-hottest-peppers/

Future of Food Tourism    

Carnival coming, the Caribbean is again poised to market as a place of ‘freedom’ and fun.

Eventually though the fun must end. For sure though, what goes on and on, is our need to eat, understanding this, many networks have introduced the idea of ‘fun with food’. We have BBC Food, Food Network, Chef’s Table, Nailed It!, Sugar Rush and the Final Table; a global cooking competition.

It remains now for our region to find its future of blending our full flavoured foods and fun. After all our year has 365 days and apart from occassionally fasting, we eat.



We, in the Caribbean, do not greet groundhogs; these giant underground squirrels found in North America. However, we in the Caribbean, do greet the first twelve days of each year, making observations as each day supposedly predicts our weather pattern for each month. In Canada and North America though, it is these fat underground squirrels that predict whether winter goes on for another six weeks or whether spring comes in. Every second day of the second month of the year, February 2, the groundhog supposedly comes looking for its shadow which is only seen in sunny weather. If it sees its shadow, the cold winter goes on for another six weeks.  

Many of us look forward to visitng Magic Kingdom Park in Disney World. There we would hardly find our groundhogs, and these animals definitely would not understand the words from Disney’s Frozen,“the cold never bothered me anyway”   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0MK7qz13bU

“The cold never bothered me anyway”, sadly words never to be sang again, if ever it was, by two University students who were found frozen  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/vermont-student-found-frozen_us_5c572e97e4b09293b2052f71 Dangerous outcomes for these students came about as they both became “… one with the wind and sky” words from Frozen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0MK7qz13bU

Forget Frozen, Remember Gobal Warming

Globally we seem to be living an unrelenting Groundhog Day of extreme floodings, harsh hurricanes and odd weather patterns. In this way, ‘groundhog day’ refers to the series of unwelcome weather patterns that appear to be recurring in exactly the same way; that is worsening over time. How then could we cooly sing “the cold never bothered us anyway”? After all, the University of Iowa student was found frozen during the 51-Degree wind chill of the 8th Polar Vortex. The U.S. Postal Services suspended mail deliveries in ten States during the Polar Vortex https://www.forbes.com/sites/kionasmith/2019/01/31/u-s-postal-service-suspends-mail-deliveries-in-10-states-during-polar-vortex/#c0bb9c13d820

So the cold bothers us for sure! But how do we get this Polar Vortex? A vortex exists at the earth’s poles where a wide expanse of cold air; the jet stream, keeps circulating within a specific region of the pole. If the vortex at the North Pole weakens; gets cooler, then the expanse of circulating cold air changes form, causing part of it to break off and push towards the South causing outbreaks of extreme cold temperatures in the United States. This is when the vortex is called a Polar Vortex.   

“The snow glows white on the mountain tonight, not a footprint to be seen” words from Frozen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0MK7qz13bU could well be taken as a warning. A warning for each of us to reduce our carbon footprints and have that reduction felt by our planet. Much has been spoken of the reduction not in carbon footprints but in the Arctic Sea Ice, with reported rates of twelve percent per decade. Some scientists predicting an ice-free Arctic by 2030.  The recent fatalities are  reminders that the cold does in fact ‘bother us’. But more than that, it is the warmth, the extreme warmth that is the real culprit.

Tourists are invited to embrace the Caribbean sun, sea and sand. Nowadays though, we also have to encourage precautions since we might have ‘too much of a good thing’ at least regarding the sun. It is this same sunlight that is managing sea ice levels. During the winter the Arctic Sea Ice grows and melts during Summer. However, as the ocean currents reaching the North Pole become warmer and warmer the amount of Arctic Ice being produced is decreasing greatly.

Some more wisdom in Frozen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0MK7qz13bU brings the reminder of being “… one with the wind and sky”. Everything is connected. Arctic sea ice is part of our global climate system since the polar ice caps regulates our global temperature by reflecting sunlight back into space. 

Mankind, we all are also part of our global climate system. Unfortunately many of us are that part that is contributing to system imbalances.  The impact of an ice-free Arctic are far-reaching, and could trigger catastrophic climate change in the future. Although it might not readily be appreciated how sea ice decline impacts the region, simple observation of our eratic weather patterns begs our recognition of global warming.

Go Green

We already know some man-made culprits, one being plastic. Good news is the possibility of having plastic-eating bacteria help reduce this waste https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Amh5k6Dbv0M

Even so there is only so much that science can do. Thankully, we also have those within the region who have started taking action to have footprints be seen.   

https://www.facebook.com/environmentalcoexistence/
https://www.facebook.com/environmentalcoexistence/t

 

This article might be poorly timed for we are into the Caribbean Fiesta https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyrcaHoKcS0 with the Carnival Season now upon us

Globally and within the Caribbean region sexual abuse of minors continues relatively speaking to remain an ostrich phenomenon. Surely now though with our global, ‘me too’ movement and the idea of ‘time up’ we are now hopeful of bringing this horrifying social phenomenon to light. A while before the ‘me too’ movement, authors such as Adele Jones in her 2013, Understanding Child Sexual Abuse: Perspectives from the Caribbean noted that increasing numbers of reports of child sexual abuse in the media suggest that either a higher proportion of the cases are being reported or that there are increasing instances of such abuse. This is where we want to dive deep on this media highlight of ‘Surviving R Kelly’ which we can hardly separate from the current “me too” context.

Writing this article, reflections of early practical experience as a therapist comes to mind. Female clients would present with a wide range of issues and the weirdest coincidence was that at least ninety percent of the presenting issues were in some way tied to abuse aftermath. So yes, there is an appreciation of the reality of the over-representation of females as survivors (kudos to those who support empowerment) of abuse. But wait, this experience was side by side of having the experience of asking out loud to more experienced psychologists, of searching the research and ‘Mr. Google’ or rather ‘Ms. Google’ in search of the missing link.

The foothold on our Monstrous Male narratives 

The missing link came after learning that many who experience abuse become abusers. In other words, to deliberately be long-winded; if someone experiences emotional abuse, they could also become emotionally abusive to others or abuse others in different ways, such as sexually or physically. If someone experiences sexual abuse, they could also become emotionally abusive or become a sexual predator, sexually abusing others. Now for the million or maybe it has now become a billion dollar questions; “if the abused often becomes the abuser, and there is an over-representation of males as abusers, then are little lads being abused and it going unnoticed?” and “if there is an over-representation of females as survivors of abuse, and much abuse goes unreported, then are many ladies also undetected or unreported abusers?”

R Kelly has a song “Trapped in the Closet” that has at least 19 Chapters   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHPDjG-iETE In 2019, are we supporting the trapping in the closet of abuse of little lads? In 2019, is the “me too” movement while highlighting the challenges of little ladies and women in general in our patriarchal society, doing so at the expense of guiltily silencing lads who experience abuse?

Why ask such a question? For those who have watched at least the first two Series of ‘Surviving R Kelly’ it would be discovered that the predator might have at one time been the prey.

We never excuse the excusable 

Typical therapy emphasizes one thing to ‘survivors’ “it was not your fault”. So surely even if a male predator was in fact a prey that in no way is an excuse for his behavior. Surely too, the ongoing abuse of little ladies might now have a lot of women being fed up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DIciKDEA_5U&list=PLNF1TtPlNbF87k2HshqLCpvEFTSlrspTB As R Kelly put it in his song ‘When A Woman’s Fed Up’; “when a woman’s fed up there ain’t nothing you can do about it”. So women are fed up and speaking out, no matter how many years later. For when it comes to abuse, it is never too late to speak out.

https://www.spin.com/2018/10/watch-the-trailer-for-lifetimes-docuseries-surviving-r-kelly/

Domestic Violence has been noted as a main contributor of women reaching emergency rooms, with over one million being seen at doctor’s offices https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-reality-corner/201302/behind-the-veil-inside-the-mind-men-abuse

Sexual abuse of girls and women is so prevalent that some mental-health and medical professionals suggest that screening for a history of abuse be a standard part of client intake  https://www.acog.org/Clinical-Guidance-and-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Health-Care-for-Underserved-Women/Adult-Manifestations-of-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse?IsMobileSet=false

This is especially so since the impact of such can negatively influence intimate relationships, parenting, family life and workplace dynamics.

How then do we benefit in 2019, from a simplistic approach to bringing abuse out of the closet, by emphasizing that many men are abusers and many females have been abused? Is this new news? Many therapists and medical professionals alike, and the survivors themselves would surely say “no!”. So what really then is the intent of the “me too” movement and the focus now on ‘Surviving R Kelly’. Have we now reached to the place where we are commercializing sex in the form of the replayed pain of sexual abuse. In other words are we ‘pimping’ out those who have been preyed upon?

If so, Who profits?  

Could we not be using the “me too” movement to highlight that ‘something’s wrong?’ and exploring what that might be and how we might address it? Could we not be twenty years later with reflections on ‘Surviving R Kelly’ explore what might be creating ‘male monstrous’ behaviors?   https://1in6.org/get-information/myths/

Or are we just about guaranteeing that we seem to be pressing forward, while maintaining our head in the sand? In that way we are already assured that we would have another series in the making, as Whitney Houston and Deborah Cox mentioned in a song, a case of same script, different cast https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVh0_DQtwyU

As the saga continues, we all have our opportunity to join in and decide what we would or would not keep on the ‘down low’ which incidentally is the title of another R Kelly song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8icIgtdKkdA

Possibly, even as we enjoy the Caribbean Carnival season we could display what healthy sexual expressions look like while taking in reflections on ‘Surviving R Kelly’

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Caribbean_carnivals_around_the_world