Moving you forward one step at a time


East or West he explains it does not matter… there are more appealing things that having character he explains…how much like is my life worth he explains… do we understand that a generation is being created that are losing themselves….and are not taking themselves to find themselves beyond what they are told from others…do we understand that there are people who will stop at nothing to maintain an impression…and literally stop at nothing…

yet we feed this everyday and some of us introduce it to our children before they can even speak….and unfortunately like he says they become prisoners to the pain of always feeling not good enough for there worth is now fully based on being who they think people want them to…

and so he sadly declares “I am I am I am a sick boy!” (and he is using boy as we use man) so girls are included 

#narcissism when or if you get into a relationship with someone like this just bow down and never rise…if you want it to work anytime you raise your head…trouble

unfortunately the best they can offer is their partner being part of keeping up an image and if you dare do anything against it well..and know this their partner is just like their cellphone just their to help create perfect selfies


If you have a complicated relationship with a senior parent, the holidays can be a stressful time, especially if you have hopes of someday making it better between the two of you. If your parent has recently entered treatment for addiction, your relationship is likely fraught with even more difficulty.

When the holidays approach, you may have feelings of dread and pain, knowing the season won’t be as merry without the loving embrace of your parent. If you want to reconnect, there’s no time like the present. And with a renewed sense of accomplishment from addiction treatment, your parent may be wishing for the same thing.

Understanding Addiction

In order to forgive, it helps to understand addiction. Addiction is a chronic disease in which the person has strong impulses to seek drugs or alcohol despite the harmful effects on their body and those around them. While the initial decision to take drugs is voluntary, the brain changes that occur over time cause an addicted person’s self-control to disappear and can curb their ability to resist the intense impulse to use.

Like other chronic diseases, such as diabetes, asthma or heart disease, addiction can be managed. However, it’s not uncommon for a person to relapse and begin using again. Relapse doesn’t mean the end of treatment, but it does mean that treatment should start again, and perhaps it should be changed to adjust for new circumstances.

Addiction in seniors

Senior are not immune to addiction. Older adults are dealing with many painful aspects of aging, such as loneliness, loss of abilities, chronic illnesses and less mobility. These things can lead to drinking more heavily or turning to drugs. Seniors also take a lot more prescription opiates, and these can be very addictive.

According to the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, there are 2.5 million older adults with an alcohol or drug problem. Six to 11 percent of senior hospital admissions are because of alcohol or drug problems: 14 percent of senior emergency room admissions and 20 percent of senior psychiatric hospital admissions. Almost 50 percent of nursing home residents have alcohol-related issues. Nearly 17 million prescriptions for tranquilizers are prescribed for older adults each year, with benzodiazepines being the most commonly abused medication.

If your elderly parent has recently started treatment, understand that it’s not your fault. Their addiction came about because of their initial choices to use drugs or drink, not because of anything you did. If your parent was using when you were a child, you likely took a lot of blame while growing up, which means you automatically internalize the narrative. Again, it’s not your fault.

If you’re struggling with your own self-esteem around your parent’s addiction, try seeking help from a professional. Seeing a therapist will help you understand why you think the way you do and what you can do to change it. A therapist will also help you with approaches to reconciliation.

Mending fences

When it is time to talk, don’t attack. Remember to use “I statements,” instead of “you statements.” “You always …” is an attack. “I feel …” is a safer approach. Know what to expect out of the conversation: Do you want an apology? Do you want to be left alone? Do you want to hear that your loved? You might not get everything you ask for, but you should know what it is you would like.

Be patient. Reconciliation doesn’t come easy– it’s unlikely your parent will apologize and you’ll suddenly feel better. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. Even if your parent is perfectly conciliatory, you might not experience healing for quite some time.

Give it time, and take baby steps. Even with just a little dialogue with your parent, you might be able to get through the holidays without a fight or increased hard feelings. But if things go south, you’ll feel better knowing that you tried. And you can always try again another time.

Contributed by Teresa Greenhill

One experience that always stood out was that of the therapist who shared her experience of being bullied this therapist never having experienced bullying before took some time to notice what was happening… what always stood out though was how persistent and far-reaching bullying can become and how much it taxes bod mind and spirit …. it took all available resources both personally and professionally for this therapist to maintain self …. but what of those who might not have the natural tendencies that might help or access to resources or be willing to access resources because they self blame…..

24/7 cyber office available @t

There are healthy comforts and not so healthy practices that are comforting

When we embrace a healthy comfort we are nourished and it supports our health and well being ………… and in that way food can be a comfort…….

But what happens is that based on past experiences we sometimes involve our eating habits and so our food in the things we do to help us feel more comfortable  if or when we are not as ease and it is this that often leads to our 3 main eating disorders..

if you suspect someone might be having a challenge with an eating disorder do appreciate it is now an automatic habit and he or she will hardly be able to resist or stop what they are doing on there own


The Undervalued Power of Touch

In one way or another at some time or the other, we reach out and touch someone or we are touched by someone, on the field, in the boardroom or even by a passing stranger during our daily hustle and bustle. From early too many of us learn there is ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch.’ And then there is the downright ‘touchy-feely’ that is associated with certain professions or types of people. But have we ever understood the magnitude of the power of touch?

Touch is so powerful that, Psychology Today notes; “we begin receiving tactile signals even before birth, as the vibration of our mother’s heartbeat is amplified by amniotic fluid.” Even before Birth! How much more then is its power after birth? Yet this is what happens;

‘Touching tends to have become taboo in the American school system and valid fears about abusive forms of touching rightfully limit contact within the classroom.’ (Nicolas Guéguen, Professor of Psychology)

Here we have the harsh realities of our world with the rampant abuse of children by adults causing us to underutilize the power of ‘good touch.’ So we continue to Break the Silence but even so ought we to simply discard the potentials for ‘good touch’?

You decide! More nurturing touch, less violence, was one of 14 many powers of touch noted in this article

The article highlighted that “research shows that when there is greater physical affection during childhood, the rates of adult physical violence are lower. On the other hand, when touch is limited, physical and verbal aggression is higher. The results have been found in both adolescents and children.”

Those words “reach out and touch somebody’s hand, make this World a better place if you can” might be much more that lyrics to a beautiful song after all. Psychology Today also noted, “if touch is a language, it seems we instinctively know how to use it. But apparently it’s a skill we take for granted.”

And the great thing about touch is its mutuality. For example, Field’s research has revealed that a person giving a massage experiences as great a reduction in stress hormones as the person on the receiving end. So it would seem that massage therapy might actually be one of those ways we can make this World a better place not just for one but for all.

Have you ever gotten a massage?

Renowned speaker and life coach Tony Robbins has also chimed in on the power of touch. He wrote in an article

  • Partners who cuddle have been shown to have lower stress levels and blood pressure and improved immune function. 
  • Elderly people who receive the soothing, affirming experience of touch have been shown to better handle the process of aging and passing with dignity. 
  • From the moment we are born to the final days of our lives, touch acts as a central aspect of the human experience — impacting our physical, mental and emotional health, and quite literally shaping the way we go through our lives.

And think about it, with the hustle and the bustle many of us go through our lives tense and on edge, yet what do we do about it? For most of us nothing! Why? All because we undervalue the Power of Touch!

Is there not a better way? Especially when we consider the well documented touch benefits of; reducing stress, communicating compassion, makes you more civil, civic and cooperative, nurtures growth and development, reduces depressive symptoms for Alzheimer’s patients, acts as a source of encouragement, increases our likeability, promotes team success, makes an apology feel more heartfelt, fosters closer intimacy between partners and “Massage therapy reduces the pain in pregnant women, helps to ease the symptoms of prenatal depression and improves the couple relationship.”

Need more be before us before we realize how much we are undervaluing the power of touch? And what are we going to do about it? We can seriously consider our own experience of massage therapy. Taking all those benefits of touch and kneading them right into our life. Those benefits of regular touch that help with our mind body connection and so;

  • Decreases anxiety 
  • Increases the number of white blood cells 
  • Lowers blood pressure 
  • Increases endorphin levels (your feel-good hormones) 
  • Helps you sleep better

Did you know that YOU can have this healing power, literally at your fingertips? When you experience a massage from Sosa Massage Services you are working out that day to day stress and working in that much needed dose of touch benefits. And this is no cheap talk, studies suggest a number of ways touch can help us stay healthy, massage, for example, has been shown to lower blood pressure, slow heart rate and even help premature babies gain weight. And what makes Sosa MASSAGE Services stand out is ‘The Professional Touch’ that keeps getting better with time.

One article noted, “You can’t touch without being touched,” and at Sosa MASSAGE Services the masseuse monitors clients response and feedback and allowing this to truly guide improvements made with each massage allowing that professional touch to keep getting better and better.

Renowned neuroscientist David Linden recently-released book Touch: The Science of Hand, Heart and Mind, explores how our sense of touch and our emotional responses impacts our lives in a very real way. We have a choice to make to value the power of touch and let it impact our lives in a real way for good.

To make that move toward massage therapy contact 1-868-355-1205 Sosa MASSAGE Services.

For long-term wellbeing, touch is as important as food and security.

We need touch, that comfort, that connection, the security and powerful emotional and physical health benefits that come from being touched in safe and appropriate ways. Over and over research has found that the benefits of touch don’t stop at the people we feel safe folding into. Just about one second of safe, interpersonal touch; a hand to the back or on the shoulder can influence health and behaviour in remarkable ways.

Why continue then to undervalue the power of touch.

Our Manipulative Narcissistic Series was intitiated to create awareness of a relationship pattern and dynamic that is so very rampant and exhausting … and for anyone who has read even one of the blogs in this Series.. you are well aware that Narcissists love nothing better than to feed off your energy and attention and so we must know when to stop .. so we have come to the end of this series and leave now a few reminders…

“We can have compassion for the deep wounds and limitations of people with narcissism. Yet compassion does not mean allowing others to hurt or use you. It is your responsibility and right to focus on how to best take care of yourself. That is not narcissism; that is healthy living.”

“State your position once and then move on.” 

“Narcissists do nothing but create a vortex of drama that leads your life into a cesspool.