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abusive relationships

Sometimes the message is clear; he or she is showing clearly for one reason or the other they don’t have the heart to love in a real way…and so they do things to sabotage, they run, they turn away do things to push away…and we remain there asking “why do you keep doing this?” or “what am I doing wrong?” when truth be told is that for one reason of the other the person is incapable of loving anyone in a real way (probably just for this time) but sometimes for some its for a very very long time… and then we might even want to tell the person ‘hush’ as we work harder and harder and harder thinking we have the ‘magic’ needed to bring love out of them… but trust James and hear him as his haunting message would live on forever as true in some situations

It’s human to have a need for Power. We all have it men women and children. When we think of leaders and politics we understand very clearly the dangers of abuse of power. Often we might not appreciate that our intimate relationships also involves politics and power. Politics has to do with rule and power. In relationships, we allow space for partners to rule and share power. For example, a couple might decide to share the rule over finances. household chores or they might share the rule of the household giving specific areas to one partner or the other. In relationships generally because of partners care, love and respect for each other, each is able to influence the other; that’s power.

In abusive relationships, the politics of love means basically being with a ‘destructive dictator’ who allows no say from those that they rule over (their partner). Power is often gotten by instilling fear in the partner and any perceived ‘crimes’ are dealt with by extreme punishment. It is best to know the signs to not get into an abusive relationship in the first place.

But if already in one it is possible still to develop a BMW relationship… Build More Wonderful relationships in the future either with or without the same partner, each situation is different…

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