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When it is part of our jobs to deal with ever-occurring, high-conflict, anxiety-arousing situations and angry/distressed persons, it becomes easier and easier to not notice the little changes and stress signals … police/army and other service professionals, ambulance attendees, fire officers and other related professions then … do well to be on the look out for changes in their colleagues and to encourage them to do the needful for self-care action … family members of persons in these professions also can be quite helpful in intervening early to reduce the impact of the consistent high-stress exposure … be on the look out for changes in relatives and encourage them to do the needful for self-care action




The Amazing Mumford is a talented magician, but his magic tricks sometimes go awry. His characteristic magic words are “A la peanut butter sandwiches!” After saying this and waving his wand, there is a puff of smoke usually accompanied by either a “poof” noise or magical tinkling sounds, and then after clearing, it reveals how the trick has gone wrong.

Intimacy is down-right scary … some have even suggested that it is as much “Into-me-see” and the closer we become the more the other is able to see ….. there are some among us then who seem to have come up with a brilliant idea of what we might call  The “Amazing Mumford” Paradigm it allows the person to comfort themselves that “yes!” they are being brave and daring to enter a potential intimate relationship and so they in there own way PUSH for the start of some sort of closer inter-ACTION with another person but then as soon as there is the feeling that “Into-me-see” might be happening they PULL away … it is like a recycled magic trick …. now you see them now you don’t … and there is ALWAYS a reason of course … but the real ‘magic’ is they have discovered a way to ‘build’ & ‘be’ in a relation-SHIP THAT will NOT really have any REAL “Into-me-see” …. REALLY though like the ‘AMA-zing Mumford’ after clearing (the other person realizing), it reveals how the trick has gone wrong (they rob themselves of much … along with there being some undesirable outcomes to the constant disappearances).

After an INTERESTING CONVERSATION with someone did some research on Feng shui“invisible forces” that bind the universe, earth, and humanity together, thus as explained to me it is sort of using the placement of things in the external to create desired outcomes ….. and in a similar way … there are lots of practiced rituals all toward again creating desired outcomes … in a way these practices and others like it subscribe to the idea of LUCK.

Interesting too is the fact that research suggests that those of us who believe in the idea that external forces … ‘things outside’ of ourselves hold a STRONGER SWAY OVER OUTCOMES … tend to not put in as much well thought out constructive efforts into doing our part to contribute to desired outcomes … it is called “External ‘locus of control’ ” External L.O.C. _______________ and those of us who acknowledge the external factors consider them realistically and then INVEST EFFORTS into what we are able to do … tend to discover our desired outcomes or close to it relatively often … it is called “Internal ‘locus of control’ ” Internal L.O.C.

After all is said and done …. we each have a choice where to direct our focus and how to share up our focus between external factors internal factors and its impact on desired outcomes …. might be helpful to do some research too …. :_)