The Amazing Mumford is a talented magician, but his magic tricks sometimes go awry. His characteristic magic words are “A la peanut butter sandwiches!” After saying this and waving his wand, there is a puff of smoke usually accompanied by either a “poof” noise or magical tinkling sounds, and then after clearing, it reveals how the trick has gone wrong.
Intimacy is down-right scary … some have even suggested that it is as much “Into-me-see” and the closer we become the more the other is able to see ….. there are some among us then who seem to have come up with a brilliant idea of what we might call The “Amazing Mumford” Paradigm it allows the person to comfort themselves that “yes!” they are being brave and daring to enter a potential intimate relationship and so they in there own way PUSH for the start of some sort of closer inter-ACTION with another person but then as soon as there is the feeling that “Into-me-see” might be happening they PULL away … it is like a recycled magic trick …. now you see them now you don’t … and there is ALWAYS a reason of course … but the real ‘magic’ is they have discovered a way to ‘build’ & ‘be’ in a relation-SHIP THAT will NOT really have any REAL “Into-me-see” …. REALLY though like the ‘AMA-zing Mumford’ after clearing (the other person realizing), it reveals how the trick has gone wrong (they rob themselves of much … along with there being some undesirable outcomes to the constant disappearances).