Now this whole matter of #metoo has been something that as a therapist has been quite disturbing….
because for myself the idea of me too has always had positive connotations and something to be celebrated and
because the idea of saying me too very often seems somewhat to be making a mockery of whatever the issues are at hand … and this is exactly what many fear might be happening with the great number of men being accused of sexual abuse/assault years after the fact…as mentioned in conversations with others … where is the evidence? and this no doubt is the idea of Catherine Deneuve et al. with the signing of the petitions http://variety.com/2018/film/news/catherine-deneuve-letter-blaming-metoo-puritanism-unfair-punishment-of-men-1202658163/
So emphasizing with the innocent men…. but here is the thing…
sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment and bullying of women is ridiculously prevalent ….
and it is the ridiculous prevalence that allows the idea of #metoo to resonant so clearly
Here is an example…
A therapist met this guy. They had a brief sexual encounter which he chose to virally spread. This was in conjunction with the therapist being part of a sort of ‘reality show’ where she and this ex and one other woman would vive for this guy’s attention by it would seem their sexual performing abilities. The therapist was appalled, sought answers none were forthcoming. She realized the guy was not that innocent and it was generally felt she was over reacting. Eventually to make a long story short, it was decided therapist won the reality competition despite the fact that her oral expertise remain questionable. The therapist of course noted the psychological warfare and sexual harassment for what it is and has no desire for this guy. The result is to subtly bully the therapist to return and settle with this guy by withholding support.
Now does that story not seem unbelievable …and where is the evidence..there is none…but guess what …that therapist can also say #metoo…..
Seems its a case of …
WOOOP There it is…
Yes WOOOP ….. women only objects of pleasure…..
(and this then makes all sorts of unbelievable stories very true)
so guys while the empathy is there for the innocent….
we might be able to appreciate that it is only when or if we move pass forcing the code #254 aka BED on women and view them beyond the bedroom and bed performances that #metoo would resonant a little less
If you or someone you know might be recovering from related matters…either target or someone who is dealing with the guilt of having target someone, or someone who has been innocently accused … sessions available @ https://karryon.privacemail.com/