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Thought of what to right to introduce this video but then saw this https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/ubers-new-ceo-just-sent-an-amazing-email-to-employees-taught-a-major-lesson-in-emotional-intelligence.html There are lots of things daily that can set our emotional energy outward in a way we might regret later and sometimes there is a lot of emotional energy pent up from having to deal with a tough situation, that’s why today we give thanks for our music;

Each day we are either becoming saner or less sane!

Mental health is along a continuum.

So how do we live like a B.O.S.S.?  

  • First- Becoming Our Sanest Self means being a SHARING Self

What that means, is that we share our thoughts and our feelings, opinions in a respectful way. Once we begin suppressing our true thoughts, that thought those thoughts unexpressed keep looking for a way to express themselves (it really is not an accident that we discover lots of people who have gone insane … talking to and answering themselves). When we keep our thoughts inside they torture us and might find expression in people we create in our minds (schizophrenia) or be denied because we might be afraid of what people think if we really express ourselves (panic attacks)

  • Second-Becoming Our Sanest Self  means accepting how we feel no matter what others think about it or how they feel about it

Feelings unexpressed or denied would surface again sometimes in ways that harm ourselves or others (poor anger management), for example, the child who constantly denies their feelings to make their parents feel better becomes the teen who cuts themselves to ease emotional pain (self-harm) and often also the person who learns to not express what they feel in relationships, often has relationships regrets fro the past which then contributes to feelings of self-rejection and much more contributing to (depression in one form or another, clinical or bi-polar)

So it is the first day of work for many of a new week …how much of a B.O.S.S. day would you allow yourself to have?

@t karryon we support all ready to be their own B.O.S.S. 

with our service https://karryon.privacemail.com/

and with our STYLE!

So in the Caribbean it finally happened, we got a singing cricketer in DJ Bravo…surprising? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gT8cLYrJwwQ

What do Sport and Music have in common?

Energy: sport and music bring with it a certain energy and that really comes from the adrenaline that both give not only to the player/performer but to those enjoying the game/performance

Lyrics: YES! in music it is obvious what the singer is saying and the story they are sharing. In sports what the sportsman or sportswoman is saying to themselves and the story, they are telling themselves only becomes obvious in how they are performing. And this is what DJ Bravo did, simply but a melody and rhythm to what the sports professionals do on the field whether they realize it or not …

Selection: When the musician goes to record they must choose between different songs, melodies and ways of singing their song. Same it is as the sports professional prepares himself/herself for selection for certain tournaments and/or decides to play with one club/in one tournament or another… https://wired868.com/2018/10/24/walk-like-a-champion-dj-bravo-announces-retirement-from-west-indies-cricket/

Play On: Music or sports we play on and the game continues

and while play continues we are right here to support how the musician or sports professional alike carry on @ https://karryon.privacemail.com/ #lifecoaching and/or #therapy

 

 

Imagine the child who for one reason or the next is deprived of that parental care and attention that is so much needed for one reason or the other … and so has the need for support from an established institutionhttps://erlc.com/resource-library/articles/5-facts-about-orphans what sort of songs would this child begin to sing…

One such child was The Original De Fosto Himself… and often within the songs was that noticeable beat of #hardships #overcoming #oppression #courage #sufferage #struggle #socialjustice #discrimination #encouragement #willtosurvive

and this is understandable given the journey of such a child to adulthood…

but often these songs come when the ‘orphan’ is at an earlier point in his journey…

Later in the ‘orphan’ journey

The ‘orphan’ comes to realize that #struggle #hardships and #overcoming are not only the exclusive territory of the ‘orphan’ but of all of mankind… and so the ‘orphan’ sings more songs of #prosperity #progress #courage and #empowerment …

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Shadow of Soca… Soca was the musical genre and this artist like a shadow made his mark on his country…https://wired868.com/2018/10/24/dear-editor-a-sublime-yet-subtle-poet-who-defied-conformation-ode-to-shadow/

Dat Soca Boat!

After the floods, some jokingly suggest the need for houses to become like boats…

But really even as this SOCA country cleans up from flooding…

What is the Soca Boat that matters NOW?… but the

BEHAVIORS 

OPERATIONS (another word for actions)

ATTITUDES

THOUGHTS

that citizens of this Soca Country hold?

Hopefully, all citizens would be thinking “I don’t wanna sink Dat Soca Boat” and so do their part in

behaviours operations attitudes thoughts

to reinforce the SOCA BOAT of Trinidad and Tobago

 

How does worry pay?

It pretends to pay…by making us think that “worry has power” to stop what we are worrying about from happening, or by keeping us alert…

but we must resist this type of thinking…

what I’m saying is true… what worry does is exhaust our energies, confuse our mind, so we can hardly think clearly and come up with ideas to deal with whatever the problem, concern or trouble might be…

so Never ever worry…

always consider it could actually be worse… in other words, the glass is half full, or at least there is a glass or a cup, or you know where to get a bottle (get the point)

and sometimes we do forget…and that’s when a good dose of self-talk works…

but more than self-talk is when we can get a tune, to sing it to ourselves, over and over, and so change not only our thinking, but create a good feeling…freeing up our mind to think things through…

so enjoy the music!

 

… when it comes to this match between Barbados Tridents and Trinbago Knight Riders two psychology terms apply…

  1. Catch “22” Barbados Tridents coming into this game have their history of successes and failures to draw from, in this case, Barbados Tridents have an equal 2 successes and 2 failures, in one case they might decide to focus on their success alone to feed forward, but in so doing they automatically feed from failing since they know that they have lost as much as they have won (in other words they have taken as well as they have give)…
  2. Recency Effect… Barbados Tridents coming into this game with only yesterday having been dealt a defeat… the thing with something happening recently is that if we did not/do not find a way to clear our minds quickly and reboot then it makes it ever so easy to repeat the defeathttps://www.cricbuzz.com/cricket-match-highlights/20416/bt-vs-tkr-18th-match-caribbean-premier-league-2018

so as a Sports Talking Therapist what #carryon tips are there?

when in a catch ’22’ for our best #carryon result we need a ground 0 approach … meaning we focus neither on our victories or failures but instead on the mission, the passion, and purpose of that mission and a strategic plan to get there…  in a nutshell we apply some #lifecoaching for performance (@available @t online office using live chat https://karryon.privacemail.com/ )

Now as for Trinbago Knight Riders, their history coming into the match was quite different… two psychology terms applied for this team would be…

  1. Self-Efficacy… this team coming into this match would have just gotten a good dose of ‘belief in their ability to get the task done’ having ‘revenged’ a crushing defeat from Jamaica Tallawahs, the thing about self-efficacy is that it helps us keep our positive psychology going, and once we do that we tend to really focus on our strengths and manage our weaknesses to get our best possible results
  2. Rest & Recovery… unlike their counterparts Barbados Tridents having played a match the day before, Trinbago Knight Riders had the opportunity for a 7-day rest & recovery period… like anything else performance keeps at its peak when we have our strategic rest periods…https://www.thestatszone.com/2018-caribbean-premier-league-barbados-tridents-vs-trinbago-knight-riders-preview

now as a Sports Talking Therapist, in no way would there be a desire to ‘take away’ from the efforts involved in the Trinbago Knight Riders getting the win, but what we do try to do, is to go behind what might be helping or hurting the sportsmen/women as they take to the field and how this can be applied to the broader game of life… https://www.cricbuzz.com/live-cricket-scores/20416/bt-vs-tkr-18th-match-caribbean-premier-league-2018

 Self-Efficacy is something we can coach for… #lifecoaching live chat sessions @vailable @ https://karryon.privacemail.com/

America’s Got Talent!…its huge! why? because of the fact that talent matters. but now we know these shows are International… why? because people got talent hidden … just waiting for the opportunity to come out

And the Caribbean got T20Cricket…, sometimes written Twenty-20, and often abbreviated to T20, is a short form of cricket. In a Twenty20 game, the two teams have a single innings each, which is restricted to a maximum of 20 overs. So T20 sort of reflects America’s got talent where batsmen, bowlers, those fielding can display their skills. It’s a time-bound…

#resilience loves knowing the timing when that ‘bell’ would go…its easy then to hold out just a little bit longer

#resilience favours time-bound situations because then our weaknesses can remain covered up a little longer and we do not have to ‘control’ for them…

so many have asked… how is it we can clearly notice the talent at T20 and yet have the West Indies drop in its Test Cricket ratings… well as a Sports Talking Therapist would share but only after allowing one who has ‘been there done that’ to have a say…https://wired868.com/2018/08/05/cover-drive-video-brian-lara-talks-cpl-test-v-t20-and-west-indies-missing-ingredient/

Okay…Test Cricket…is much more reflective of the uncharted territories of that ‘open book test’ called life… it is ongoing with the opportunity for life to challenge us on our weak points…to bowl us some ‘odd’ balls, to get run out, to want to stop but yet needing to find the will to carry on in spite of, to be on the losing end of the game and search within for the resolve, to be winning the game and needing to remain focused to really reach the goal, https://sports.ndtv.com/cricket/2nd-test-day-2-jason-holder-shines-as-west-indies-dominate-bangladesh-1883071to have to deal with cross-cultural issues, and it goes on and on and on..more than ’20-0vers’…

So what is required? 

Mastering our mind gym before taking that field and putting all our work from that mind gym into use…

Our Mind Gym

we need to work out doubts but not simply by positive self-talk but by practical preparation…and during this time, preparation includes becoming very familiar with what we would confront…http://zeenews.india.com/cricket/1st-test-west-indies-hope-to-end-22-win-less-years-in-new-zealand-2061321.html

we need to take stock of the fact that anything can happen on the field, or the day before, or the moment before, and so our stress management, relaxation strategies need to be in tune

we need to do ‘jumping jacks’ and figure out those triggers that might cause us to suddenly become anxious, ‘is it a comment’ from the fans/critics, is it something, in particular, that might be said and have a contingency plan to keep the focus

Practical Application

It is one thing to train and another to put training to use…

we can begin to put that training to use by visualizing plays, visualizing performing at different skills

we then need that key factor called adapt adapt…good teams are able to take all learned, all preparations, observe then what is happening and adapt for the benefit of the desired outcome…suppose the player there was an intention to depend on is having an ‘off’ day..what then..is all lost…suppose the winning streak was on and the match had to be disrupted…is that it there for the game? 

Life is a test…and working out at our mind gym is not optional its a must no matter how many strengths we have going for us…   

 

 

Buzz like a butterfly, sting like a bee, yep that’s Muhammad Ali, the man who brought class, consciousness, critical thinking to the boxing ring…

What would have contributed to such sporting success?… its partly motivation, passion, interest but more so the deep pleasure he got from his sport and from feeling out his opponents and defeating them ….

How is this linked to Dopamine?

Dopamine is that chemical in the brain that is associated with expecting pleasure…..

So we could say that during Muhammad Ali’s career he would have had a healthy does of dopamine circulating through his brain….

What links Dopamine to Addictions?

Dopamine plays a huge part in motivating effort and persistence because we are expecting to get pleasure from something….and what drugs do is leave lots of dopamine in the brain…so it is sought again and again and again…

Do you think after each match Muhammad Ali would have had a fair amount of dopamine in his brain at the next fight and possibly with each win and anticipation of another fight more dopamine again…

Retirement/Slowing our Pace and link to withdrawal 

What happens then to sportsmen like Muhammad Ali when the season of boxing fights are gone? 

Well he got PARKINSON’S as is well known…guess what that is linked with …low levels of Dopamine

The addict treats himself/herself by using dopamine levels to seek out that drug again and again…

But a retired sportsman is just that retired…and if/when we do not find a way to now adapt our energies/find ways to derive pleasure in some new way using our skills and talents we threaten our balance….

 by possibly messing with all the related ‘happy hormones’ and chemicals in our brains that might show up in lots of different ways… no wonder then sometimes ‘aging’ persons turn to being a closet alcoholic or get that ‘Harley’ motorbike….

Living life with passion and purpose is not an age thing..its a living thing and once blessed with life the task is ours to keep motivated and discover our sources of pleasure in healthy and new ways….

#lifecoaching  https://karryon.privacemail.com/is all about collaborating with a #lifecoach to craft our desired future life/vision/goals in one or more areas of life…