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Human Sexuality

Ý do some relationships seem to have alongside the obvious sexual connection, a sort of caring, sharing, supporting and even ability of each partner to challenge the other in a good sort of way… 

Level 1: Conditioned for Continuity

Biologically we are hard-wired at around teens or adolescents to seek out sexual connections, our hormones literally awaken our awareness of the physical appeal of others

So, the whole idea of working on one’s physical attractiveness to attract a love interest, of course, makes sense since once this hard wiring is awakened during our teens, it is only our deliberate conscious efforts that dampen it…

Some relationships are actually simply Level 1

While on the surface relationships might look the same for example man-woman, man-man, woman-woman… some couples can be in a relationship that even results in a marriage where either ….

a) both parties are level 1

b) one part is level 1

Both parties are level 1

When or if both parties are level 1 then the relationship in addition to being highly-genital (along with other earlier sources of pleasure being used e.g. mouths) the relationship is held together by a sort of strict organized contractual arrangement, each party understands his/her role and ‘great sex’ becomes the point of bonding as well as attending to offspring (remember we are conditioned for continuity)

What’s missing?

From the point of the couple absolutely nothing… but if an onlooker were to observe more closely, these would be the type of couples that look good together, have a ‘happy’ functional, well-run home yet there seems as if that ‘something’ is missing and often the onlooker can best explain it by talking about level 2 couples (which we come to in a bit)

One Party is Level 1

This is the couple where one partner complains of not being happy in the relationship, the sex is good, even great, but “we never go out”… “we don’t do anything together” all the while the other partner cannot appreciate what the problem is as they list all the good things in the relationship….

What’s missing? 

This partner might have gotten caught up in the first pull…the sexual connecting and assumed the intimacy would come in other words they were expecting a level 2 relationship

Level 2 Relationships

Level 2 relationships like level 1 relationship involve some sort of sexual connection or physical attraction, in these cases though the attraction might have either been instant or developed over time…

but one thing happens here, after the initial exploring in whatever way the couple does of the sexual/genital (et al.) connection, the partners begin to connect as a small social circle, they share their stories, interests, find commonalities, consider differences and build a support system of two, in other words they become intimate and so the relationship has sexual connections as well as other connections and the sexual connection becomes simply another form of intimacy for the couple…

This intimacy is then noticeable and felt by others (recall that thing that the happy level 1 couple was missing, well that’s it)

But the question is how do we get to level 2 intimacy? 

Actually, our capacity for level 2 intimacy was being built long before we became teens, it was being built as we bonded with our parents/caregivers who were teaching us whether it is safe to trust others and to be vulnerable with them… 

if we learned to trust and bond relatively well with our parents/caregivers we are primed to go beyond the genital connection that sets in during teens


Getting a GOLD at any Olympics 1976 or otherwise is no small feat…it takes a sort of rugged determination… so guess we would think a male a sportsman who does that is even more ‘rugged’ than your average male…. but was it true of Bruce
Far from…anytime we Give Out Limited Definitions of ourselves to others by our words/actions there is nothing ‘rugged’ or brave about what we are saying/doing/or being in that moment…
So how then do we really reach the goal …THE GOAL of..
Living as our authentic self and creating our individual authentic life is the only way we really go for gold in this life we have been given…
but it takes a ‘rugged’ determination to hear the naysayyers, to hear the criticisms, the jeers and keep going… keep going because it is we who must be able to live with the choices we make and find peace with those choices each and every day…
And whether we agree with transgender persons, idea or not, whether we consider it immoral or unholy, the fact is those persons are being true to their authentic selves…
and there it is that it remains the same for each and everyone of us, whatever that thing might be…we get gold when…we
Discrimination ………… rule our lives
For those who might care to know … people like Bruce choose to become Caitlyn because of what is known as 
Gender dysphoria feeling distressed because the sex they had at birth and the gender they experience themselves as, do not match.
@KarryOn we serve all

Marvin said it we need to wake up to sexual healing…and this is true in so many ways for so many of us…

  1. There comes a time when we get ‘that feeling’ if or when that happens and we ignore it then sure enough we need sexual healing…the type that comes from releasing pent up unexpressed energies
  2. Sometimes though because of experience we might be inclined to look for our sexual healing in ways or by means that are either morally or legally negative….e.g. through children, by using force or intimidation, or by moving away from people and towards porn sites
  3. On the other end sometimes we actually do need sexual healing because it begins to hurt other areas of our lives, e.g. sexual compulsions and/or addictions
  4. Additionally too sometimes we need sexual healing because based on our past experience we seek our sexual ‘healing’ by using others..making them think we want a relationship when all we want is sex
  5. And connected to that sometimes we need sexual healing because we have fallen into a pattern where we allow others to continually use us for their sexual healing and all we get in return is sexual hurting

And then there are times when we just need that sexual healing that we can get from expressing ourselves with our partner and/or finding appropriate outlets to express and release that ‘feeling’…which ones do you do most…

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