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There are some challenges…that are easy as pie

There are some challenges where we try and try

There are some challenges…..

some challenges are not the one and done

some challenges are not nice not fun…

It is then we learn that Eating Elephants Fast Feeds Frustration

so How do you eat an elephant? …. one bite at a time…

the idea is whether we are dealing with a habit we want to end, a challenge in a relationship, learning a new skill/behaviour, or dealing with something in the workplace, etc. etc….

sometimes we need to learn that it is like an elephant  

AND so we reduce our frustration when we can ….

move forward very slowly…. and appreciating small sometimes minute/tiny victories…and #keepgoing….focusing on the tiny progress made instead of how much farther there is to go…. and keep focusing on the #now with that feeling of gratitude

Other Option

keep trying to….

Eat that Monkey Fast …. & Feed Frustration…

and possibly even threaten our peace..and mental wellbeing



Dr. Carol Dweck got straight to the point….

we eventually choose our Mindset as we approach situations, relationships or life in general

Our Mindset decides how we think about challenges and change…

Growth Mindset…..“A mistake is valuable if you do four things with it: recognize it, admit it, learn from it, forget it.” ― John Wooden 

That is easy because the growth mindset views qualities as always in process with the potential for improvement, so mistakes are not failures but opportunities to do better

Fixed Mindset… some are bright/some are dumb, you are either good at it or not, protect people’s perceptions of your talents/gifts…

The fixed mindset puts us under constant stress, especially with how quickly information is shared now, we are always protecting our turf, even when or if …1) it is not necessary or 2) protecting our turf means denying ourselves a future bigger benefit

We become obsessed with getting it right, over getting better and better…

Great news!  We can Fix Our Life…by learning how to work in the growth mindset where we appreciate that we are all a work in progress and so we need not be afraid to suck! 

Teacher Appreciation Week, 

quick bring out the # and go tweet

Tweet not about Miss or Sir

Tweet about the greatest teacher ever to stir,

The teacher that we often take for granted and ignore

Though this teacher continues to teach us lessons evermore

This teacher is not other than life,

who many of us repay with greed, anger, hate, resentment and strife

But if we were to truly have a teacher appreciation week

And have our life take a seat

We would honour our life with a …

Thank you for teaching me wisdom,

Thank you for skills, attitudes and opportunities to love, live and grow

Thank you even for the lessons and the classes that I did not want to go

Thank you not this week but every darn day…that throughout my life I do not remain the same way but with you as my teacher I can grow from strength to strength….so tell me what is there ever to resent?

Life Appreciation Working daily makes living gratitude our law!

Celebrating the greatest teacher of them all!     

#lifecoaching available especially for #relationships

Another ROYAL wedding is coming up….

people are interested or maybe even some not so interested

But do you know what is soooooooo very interesting?

The little interest people show in their very Own Royal Wedding

What does this mean?

First let us rewind…rewind to the practices, people, process that led up to this Royal Wedding…

What practices? …those are the things that the couple did together or did not  do together that led to creating a level of closeness

Who people? …for starters the couple of course, then their might be friends and family who are also influencing

What process? …actually that should really be processes for plural..the communication process of the couple, the conflict resolution process, the power dynamic process and it goes on and on….

And when all these come together a decision is made to have an event called a wedding…

And our wedding is always a ROYAL wedding…how so?

Because we are always making a decision on that day to







Yet many of us only focus on having a ROYAL looking wedding..meaning we must look like royalty…and focus little on the patterns of our relationship and whether it is worth committing to such patterns for a lifetime

And sure relationships change,,,but let us be real there is a comfort that comes after a wedding and its called the comfort of marriage..where we expect to a major degree that our partners would not go flipping the script on us…

so do you have your very own Royal Wedding coming up, be sure to consider what the yesterdays were really like and how comfortable you are with those yesterdays becoming your todays and tomorrows

We are in the information age….which is simply an advancement of the introduction of the ‘printing press’ ….what does it mean?

It means that the Press, Media Houses are mega important to our social cultural psychological life….

we need to be informed whether we use offline or online sources or a combination of both….so most if not all of us have love for our Press and recognize the importance of Freedom of the Press….

but wait ..not so fast…not so fast! …

even with all that love…. is it enough to say Happy World Press Freedom Day or to say…

The World (better) Press Freedom Day!

Here is why?….We press and public alike better Press Freedom Day because;

  • Evaluating press freedom around the world

So let us evaluate; the Press has freedom to protect its sources, to promote awareness of important information….who decides what information is important to make it Press worthy and what information is stifled and considered not Press worthy…and because of the importance of the Press, this 1 decision can have mega effects globally…so sure support for freedom of the Press…but this is the group that is leading our age in a big way since they deal with the collateral of  our times “INFORMATION” …so the Public better Press freedom day and monitor the Press for good ethical practices and policies by ensuring they have the relevant monitoring bodies 

  • Defending the media from attacks on their independence

Of course….even with these monitoring bodies we realize that many would love to control the Press and media and with good sure it is important to support media independence…but then again what about when the media goes on and on and on without limits making difficult for ‘persons of interest’ to live their life independently because of making them the Press star of the moment…paparazzi anyone  does being independent make it okay to sensationalize someone’s life for views ….guess we all better Press Freedom

  • Paying tribute to journalists who have lost their lives in the exercise of their profession

And of course our journalists and the like ought to be able to carry out their profession with freedom from fear, bullying and sabotage..can we all do the same? 

  • Serving as an occasion to inform citizens of violations of press freedom

Okay great so on a mega ideal level we have a conversation going…but what about those Monica’s out there (yes it was so intense, a last name is not even required) 

  • Journalists, editors and publishers are harassed, attacked, detained and even murdered

No no no we cannot agree to harassment of our Press…yet under the radar…abuse by proxy takes place and it is when someone in authority engages the media to target for harassment their ‘person of interest’ 

So encouraging and developing initiatives in favour of press freedom, and to assess the state of press freedom worldwide …

what is the state of press freedom worldwide? guess it depends on where we are standing…either way we all better Press World Freedom Day…press and public alike and encourage and develop initiatives in favour of ‘press freedom’ and by that we do mean ‘press freedom’ = freedom for press & freedom for public to support free information flow

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Marvin said it we need to wake up to sexual healing…and this is true in so many ways for so many of us…

  1. There comes a time when we get ‘that feeling’ if or when that happens and we ignore it then sure enough we need sexual healing…the type that comes from releasing pent up unexpressed energies
  2. Sometimes though because of experience we might be inclined to look for our sexual healing in ways or by means that are either morally or legally negative….e.g. through children, by using force or intimidation, or by moving away from people and towards porn sites
  3. On the other end sometimes we actually do need sexual healing because it begins to hurt other areas of our lives, e.g. sexual compulsions and/or addictions
  4. Additionally too sometimes we need sexual healing because based on our past experience we seek our sexual ‘healing’ by using others..making them think we want a relationship when all we want is sex
  5. And connected to that sometimes we need sexual healing because we have fallen into a pattern where we allow others to continually use us for their sexual healing and all we get in return is sexual hurting

And then there are times when we just need that sexual healing that we can get from expressing ourselves with our partner and/or finding appropriate outlets to express and release that ‘feeling’…which ones do you do most…

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On reviewing Mind Gym, Ben Grenshaw noted;

” Believing in yourself is paramount to success for any athlete”

Life is a Game

Mind Gym is a perfect explanation of what we enter when we enter this life…each experience we meet challenges us to exercise our minds…those of us who think/feel/act for one minute as if we can cruise through this life lazy about exercising our minds, we wake one day to discover that others are


and this F.A.T. is often times unhealthy…. so today for starters what sort of exercises have you began in your Mind Gym?

Even for athletes guess what Yogi Berra said;

” Ninety percent of the game is half mental”

And trust me I’ve been there and we all either have been there or will get there…

Where is there? That place where you need to train @ your Mind Gym a bit more often and a bit harder because of the road ahead…to really be able to deal with that marathon/obstacle course …..

So to all our Gym goers looking nice and fit….remember what Bruce Jenner said; 

” you have to train your mind like you train your body”

because what you think affects how you feel and perform…

Happy Performing People!

#mindset #mentalattitude #resilience #positivepsychology@   

Dear Positive Psychology People, Whatsoever we believe as true becomes true. One main difference between those of us who CHOOSE daily 👣 to have our positive psychology turned on and those who do not…is the idea of getting ahead in life….. Who or what can truly stop us from getting ahead in life? Okay so some say my parents, others say the government, some say circumstances….but guess what the one thing that prevents us from getting ahead in life is OUR 👿💭 thoughts…Yes people can but obstacles…Yes we all have different life circumstances and some of us have come into tough circumstances…Yes people can be out to “get” us…yet it is for us to increase or decrease what is presented….and when we are blocked or feel blocked we can sit and have a PIT😢 Part😭 or we can accept that it is what it is and pull out our Positive Psychology…


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Sometimes when meeting a Mr. Adan Mother-May-I a partner might notice that he behaves as if;

  • his life is a movie &
  • he is heavily manipulated and guided by a desire to please his mother

and so of course the partner thinks and feels if only he could understand what is happening and so the partner does not ‘give up’ on him but seeks to help him to understand….

and he would if only he could….

more often than not though… is the partner who needs the help because for better or for worse…

Mr. Adan Mother-May-I …. is A Host 

He is like an empty vessel that entertains the bidding of others… this he does for his very survival for it is all he has ever known…from the beginning of time he has existed for mama….

Coming to this realization can be one of the most sad and horrifying experiences… support @