Moving you forward one step at a time

Mental Health Awareness

Everyone of us has a family of origin. This family has shaped our attitudes, behaviours and biology. Time taken to understand it and for others coming into the family to understand it and work on improving ‘natural family tendencies’ can support our mental health and that of future generations.

here’s that full interview with the single dad YOUTUBE VIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/tfo3ouPQP9k http://YOUTUBE VIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/tfo3ouPQP9k

So let’s ‘fool’ around with our family of origin, get to know understand it and play with some new ways of being

This year … a bold move for World Mental Health Day…

Right back to the Basics…

Our Young People… 

what, why, where, do we go around thinking that life is all ‘fun and games’ for all our children and upcoming youth…well the info is there before 14 half of mental health concerns show up…

Let us add by around age 7, the personality is formed and fairly stable…

So let’s take it back to basics

Musical Mindset…

  • “tell everybody I reach, I coming inside right now!” … far too often as adults we might not take the time to appreciate just how much children ‘suck up’ the emotional climate of their environment and so we continue on with the conflicts, or whatever is happening…but when that child reaches, the child needs ’emotional safety and calm’ and if the environment is not ready to offer that, well the child literally ‘suffers’ through it but sooner or later the distress would show
  • Back to Basics … one of the biggest safeguards for children and youth is to feel good to say ” I am …. ….” and that comes when we from very early help in developing that pride in how they look, accepting all their thoughts and feelings as important and disciplining always in loving calmness
  • Back to Basics… our children come into a very competitive World but before they can get to that and deal well with it, they need our support through connection to bring forward their creativity that would point out their unique skills and talents
  • Back to BASICS… really take in the video… our objective is to basically keep children for the main part happy… not happy as in spoilt…but happy as in finding awe interest wonder and pleasantness as the learn and experience life
  •  Back to BASICS… “way before Facebook could post it…” far too many of our children are crying out for attention and connection on the social media… way before Facebook, there was family-time, chats with children by allowing them to feel free to approach us the adults

#WorldMentalHealthDAy 2018

Sometimes people grow up experiencing extreme abuse and or neglect…

Eventually, these persons grow up with an “emptiness in the pit of their stomachs” feeling unlovable, unworthy, and so wanting to be loved, that they become whoever their partner desires…

The thing with this is for these persons, there is no love within, only the love from without, their partners and sometimes children that make life seem worth living…

and so the feeling if ever there is even a mild conflict, is that life is no longer worth living…

and if ever a partner does anything to threaten the relationship, these persons seek the ultimate way for their partner to prove their love…

They declare “if you leave me I will kill myself” … the idea is for the partner to prove their love for them, by staying with them, be saving their life literally…

At times if the relationship really shows no chance, these persons adopt an approach of “I will kill me to hurt you!” …

#mentalhealthchallenges need more than a partner who is manipulated … often the issue is a lack of #selflove #selfworth and finding a reason for life beyond or in addition to their main #realtionship…

It’s #WorldSuicidePreventionDay!

There are some challenges…that are easy as pie

There are some challenges where we try and try

There are some challenges…..

some challenges are not the one and done

some challenges are not nice not fun…

It is then we learn that Eating Elephants Fast Feeds Frustration

so How do you eat an elephant? …. one bite at a time…

the idea is whether we are dealing with a habit we want to end, a challenge in a relationship, learning a new skill/behaviour, or dealing with something in the workplace, etc. etc….

sometimes we need to learn that it is like an elephant  

AND so we reduce our frustration when we can ….

move forward very slowly…. and appreciating small sometimes minute/tiny victories…and #keepgoing….focusing on the tiny progress made instead of how much farther there is to go…. and keep focusing on the #now with that feeling of gratitude

Other Option

keep trying to….https://karryon.privacemail.com/

Eat that Monkey Fast …. & Feed Frustration…

and possibly even threaten our peace..and mental wellbeing

 

 

So we are wrapping up our Season of baskets with chocolates and Easter eggs…..

What can we learn? 1 Question and yes it’s a #GoodOne

Our baskets we use around this time is usually WIDE OPEN…

Significance….anybody can drop anything into our basket!

yet our basket contains something so precious….our eggs…

eggs house powerful ingredients to replicate & reproduce

Significance…. what if we constantly have people dropping things into our basket that impact our eggs in ways that would hurt us…

and that’s not all…

we tend to eat what is in our basket…

Significance…what we put into ourselves is sure to show up in one way or the other…

and so now for the question…

Who put the eggs in your basket?

The idea of a #BasketCase is not a coincident …

so even as the Season moves along ..hope we would move around more conscious of what we are allowing into our ‘mental baskets’ for whatsoever others try to put into our minds has the potential to reproduce especially if we feed upon it…

Blessed Day!

Studies suggest that psychosocial events (stressors) may play a more significant role in resulting a first episode of Major Depressive Disorder.

The severity of the first Major Depressive Episode appears to predict how persist the Depressive Disorder would be thereafter. 

Natural disasters and traumatic experiences are simply put deeply distressing. If or when we have a tendency or give in to a tendency to long for what has been lost, what once was and might never return again or take an extremely long time to rebuild .. then we add stress upon the stress of dealing with the distressing situation

what happens is that we fight with the present because we insist things should be different

what happens is we despair over the future because we have already decided to some measure it is ruined if it is not a continuation from the past we long for  

since it is virtually impossible to retrieve that which is lost we fall deeper into fighting the present and so these thoughts and feelings lead to changes in how our body chemistry is operating …

over time if this continues our internal systems or biochemistry changes and we begin to require external help to regulate our general low despondent mood .. which might manifest in lack of desire to come out of bed, sadness, irritability, thoughts and feelings of both hopelessness and worthlessness etc.

and by this time its truly somewhat to a major extent biological and truly the behaviours manifested are not the person’s fault … 

yet it all began with the response to a tough tiring draining devastating situation… it began as situational depression

and it is for this reason that it remains imperative that we seek support early personal or professional or both to ensure we are managing our thinking feeling and behaviour tendencies that could cause later long term decreases in our innate internal mental health and wellbeing  

https://karryon.privacemail.com/

When we experience a natural disaster or a trauma there is just so much for us to deal with in terms of sometimes practical business, dealing with the impact of the event, our residue thoughts, feelings, managing at times our relationships with other people, institutions and systems.. its a lot … and so we go into overdrive and our thoughts our mind goes into overdrive ….  

often this results in us not being able to return to a base state of rest and so at nights when would be the usual time of rest for most we are forced to stay up because our body follows our racing mind and remains on full alert…

it is then that we must almost induce our self into that relaxed state  possibly by

  1. designating a period to get things done and then a daily bed time routine
  2. using natural herbs and teas to induce the body to sleep 
  3. visit a doctor and have him or her prescribe some sort of medication designed to help the body go into sleep mode

It is very important that we act quickly upon noticing the tendency to not sleep at nights .. usually by the 2nd night the 3rd for the absolute least