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Old And Opinionated

How to care for the elderly when they don’t want your help? (and we mean the real elderly lol)

  • Choose a time when you and your elderly are relaxed
  • Ask other family member to help
  • Keep trying might take time
  • Suggest a trial to the new accommodation or situation
  • Address the money factor for whatever is being suggested or discussed

Becoming An Active Elderly is ongoing managing of transition or change


Youth is associated with fabulous …

youth often fascinates …. and then when you become OLD .. suddenly you are deemed ORDINARY


meaning nothing more ….

nothing more than what? …

nothing more than another person

nothing more essential or great to contribute

nothing more to offer

and if there is nothing more … then what?

is that not a suggestion to “be gone”

yet once we are blessed with life … how could we become “nothing more”

but then again maybe we can … if we subscribe to the thinking that we are in fact “washed up now” .. our time is over

So how do we deal with being ORDINARY

well since its tough to shake a system or thinking that refuses to be shaken

If you are deemed OLD .. ORDINARY

Please be an

ORIGINAL OLD ORDINARY .. and that is darn Exceptional!

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The main thing emphasized about old is time has gone… 

and sometimes it is flipped by society as “old=your time has passed” in other words old =

expired … out of date

and it is this attitude that lies behind the trepidation that many associate with aging …. and so many experience a drastic drop in self-esteem and feelings of worthiness with being deemed “old” …

ironically then some try to do things to suggest a distance from any association with “old” and it actually gives more fodder for those who look on at the efforts and re-emphasize that person as outdated

but societal cultural norms will be what they are until we choose differently and that it is… a cultural societal norm .. to deem “old” as outdated..

although the norms cannot be shaken … there are some who are in fact operating within a ‘date’ a time period that they think of as ‘home’ and so refuse to adjust and adapt and this is one way in which the old at times tend to work against the cause of ageism ….

so for those who are deemed “old” by others or are self-declared “old” or fall within a descriptor for “old” it  might do well to consider in what ways; 

behaviours adopted are leading to being left behind when or where it is absolutely avoidable … and

when it is that the label of outdated works against or might work against how or what is being put in place to mitigate any risks

p.s. with the increase in the number of elders… elder abuse is now a very real issue ….

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There are certain liberties that come with age… and that is to speak what others dare not say … 

notwithstanding there are also certain labels that come with age … and its that of being ‘stuck-in-the-mud’ or in other words opinionated …

and it is that label of ‘old and opinionated’ that may times work against both the old and the young and youthful …

when the older person or elderly speaks it as they view it … especially if done so vehemently and there is no room for the young to either have their say or feel respectfully listened to .. then unfortunately each loses as the older person feels frustrated and the younger person misses the opportunity to benefit from any wisdom their elder might have imparted … so remember that the young cannot “shout” as loud as you since they have not yet been granted that position … it is therefore for the old to consider;   

and allow it to guide how the young are spoken to or even better conversed with 

But Old And Opinionated can also be a scourge of sorts as most labels tend to become; 

  • employers sometimes favour bringing younger employees onboard because their is a perception they tend to be more malleable
  • certain fields also favour endorsing and investing in younger persons because ironically they are aware that others might perceive the older person in a particular way
  • in terms of romantic relationships sometimes older is a disadvantage because the person is considered stuck in ways that tend to be perceived as more negative ways than positive

And then sometimes Old And Opinionated is just that Old And Opinionated

some do a real disservice to self in our ever-changing World by hanging on to the experience gained over the years and closing off all new incoming information about what is happening and so closing off all new opportunities to learn and be better adapted to the World as it currently exists … and it is this group with the bigger group that gives rise to supporting the labels and views attached to older persons ….

so where do you fall within old and opinionated? how do you manage with the discrimination of the label ‘old and opinionated’? and if you are in the young and youthful, what is your perception? and how does your perception influence your interaction with those older than you?

We live in an intergenerational World and yet like with all other classifications, we often rob ourselves of maximizing on the benefits by ostracizing one generation from another…. we teach all and we learn from all .. that is if we dare