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Parenting Matters

Everyone of us has a family of origin. This family has shaped our attitudes, behaviours and biology. Time taken to understand it and for others coming into the family to understand it and work on improving ‘natural family tendencies’ can support our mental health and that of future generations.

here’s that full interview with the single dad YOUTUBE VIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/tfo3ouPQP9k http://YOUTUBE VIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/tfo3ouPQP9k

So let’s ‘fool’ around with our family of origin, get to know understand it and play with some new ways of being

International Children’s Day recognizes children as our future. It is a declaration that children are simply little people with feelings worthy of respect and consideration with a right to safety and decent treatment. Our children eventually become adults who rais future children. Safeguarding our children is safeguarding our communities.

Especially we had International Men’s Day coming the day before International Children’s Day and it is a case of the chicken and the egg, which comes first the boy or the man, for each continues to influence the other and then impact our girls and women;

Belonging and Connectivity are important for children to have a healthy self-esteem…as children begin to go out into the wider World, it is their peer group that they want most to connect with and belong to….and so it is important to help our children to have a desire to belong and connect to a group of friends/peer group that would help them become ‘good citizens’ of their little school community http://www.karryonservices.com/2018/05/21/yellow-for-friendship/

#coaching during times of transitions @vailable @t https://karryon.privacemail.com/

Know Your Friends! and help the children know who are theirs

Order stability creates a measure of safety and security for our children as they grow and become more and more independent and explore their World.

Rules;

part of what creates that is understanding that their are rules….

Egocentric;

children are naturally ego focused the younger they are and its necessary…part of the adults job is to help them learn how to move beyond and interact with others and consider others…

Rules/Discipline/why?…

Rules are all around and those who do not follow rules are in one way or the other isolated…this is what we begin to teach with the idea of a ‘naughty corner’ … (it is important then that children understand the reason for a naughty corner)

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Dear Positive Psychology People, 

As you know within any group there are sub-groups, today turning attention to our positive psychology people who are…

non-parents… so

Dear Non-parents,

Attended a fantastic symposium last Friday where persons were able to brainstorm and share views on social topics…guess what came up?

pressures on those “of age” with no children, pressures on those against the “biological clock” … so

as Positive Psychology Non-parents, 

let’s highlight our Do’s and Dont’s……

we Don’t;

  • Deny our reality or that of the social pressures
  • Defend our right to have our views
  • Deny other people their right to their views
  • Do nothing and pretend the reality would go away…

what we Do;

  • Develop our own unique point of view on the matter (positive psychology is all about being strength-based)

therefore a positive psychology non-parent asks, would I want to have children eventually, if no, then how do I maintain a life that I am comfortable with while allowing society to hold their views

if yes then; …what are the options available to me as an individual that I would be most comfortable with … and positive psychology people are people that progress…so the next thing is to move forward in the direction of chosen options…

Yet part of accepting reality is accepting the pressures, so in the event that it is viewed as needful or helpful remember there is #onlinetherapy or #lifecoaching available via #Karryonservices @ https://karryon.privacemail.com/ 

#biologicalclock #parentingmatters #abortion #adoption #moderndaylife #blendedfamilies #gendermatters #malematters #femalematters

 

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Why is it even important? 

After doing the session which was nothing short of energy and fun… it was again obvious the need for PTA, even at this age some children take boldly to watching themselves, while others shy away from the mirror … taking time to tune in to what is being shared in both video can go along way to ensure your child can bravely boldly and lovingly look at him/herself and know they have all within to progress upwards and onwards … tune in  

Children who feel connected to family relatives and home will tend to have a stronger self-image…. remember we must use TACT with our little ones. 

Relationships involve give and take and our relationships can only head to ward exceptional when we are both willing and able to give as well as we take. While some say it is better to give than to receive, when it comes to our relationships if or when we do all the giving that better we expect to feel soon goes to ward bitter… before focusing on giving to others in relationships we must first give to ourselves the permission to receive from others in that way while we are giving we will realize when we are being short-changed in a relationship before continuing along and becoming bitter