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Sometimes the message is clear; he or she is showing clearly for one reason or the other they don’t have the heart to love in a real way…and so they do things to sabotage, they run, they turn away do things to push away…and we remain there asking “why do you keep doing this?” or “what am I doing wrong?” when truth be told is that for one reason of the other the person is incapable of loving anyone in a real way (probably just for this time) but sometimes for some its for a very very long time… and then we might even want to tell the person ‘hush’ as we work harder and harder and harder thinking we have the ‘magic’ needed to bring love out of them… but trust James and hear him as his haunting message would live on forever as true in some situations

Our personality is built over time, but because we continue to interact with others and our environment generally there is an opportunity for some changes to take place

However, sometimes depending on what was happening in earlier experiences when the base of our personality was being formed we can become stuck in ways of behaving that even though it might be harming us and causing problems in our relationships we refuse to consider making any adjustments to how we do things or operate…

Often in such cases, we would have sought out a partner whose personality is such that they are always adjusting to make their relationships work…

but the thing is that often times for the relationship to have a chance of becoming healthier it also requires some adjusting in the other partner as well…

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Training on the virtue of getting together and living the dream starts early… sure it might be more targeted to women but its also with men and so as girls grow and boys grow there is this subtle unconscious message…

let’s call it ‘Wedding’ Worship…

basically that we have really hit that home run, if or when we get that ‘official’ relationship commitment…

and so some come out with one focus in relationships ‘catching a man’ (a good man, whatever good might mean) or ‘snatching and ‘locking down’ a good woman) or “partner” … and for these people, it’s all about the end so…

its a show, its about strategy, manipulation even, acting to get a desired result, here Leroy discovers it could even be about ‘Goumangala’ (witchcraft, black magic, obeah) all because of moving the focus away from building a healthy relationship which could even mean leaving one for another and moving the focus on scoring the big one …. that official commitment aka wedding …

Some of us go along being ignorant of this, only to have that Dr. Hyde and Mr. Jekyll effect happen after the goal is done…

Yellow for friendships….

But have we ever considered who is the ‘friend’ we get on the ship with..

Friend …a person who supports a particular cause

How often are we seduced by friendly behaviors and outward acts of affection only to discover that the person(s) were working for a cause that was not or is not in our best interest? or maybe we have never had this experience or hardly ever? then great!

But for those of us who are easily seduced by false friends

What are the possible checklists or safeguards?

  1. Being a friend to our-self is the first safeguard. It is the only way we would be prepared to expect and accept only those things that are in our best interest.
  2. Words are not an indication of intent…behaviors are.
  3. While behaviors are indicators of intent, intent can be mis-interpreted for better or worse. Therefore another safeguard is to appreciate that ongoing behaviors make sense. Therefore if contradictory behaviors are noticed have selftrust
  4. Work on feelings of worthiness and lovableness so that there is no value judgement of worthiness if a friendship is not going as expected and therefore it becomes easier to view the relationship for what it is and choose accordingly, rather than hold on to a toxic relationships to preserve feelings of worthiness

If we often find ourselves in false friendships it might be a #redflag that we can benefit from improving our Self Esteem  https://karryon.privacemail.com/

Another ROYAL wedding is coming up….

people are interested or maybe even some not so interested

But do you know what is soooooooo very interesting?

The little interest people show in their very Own Royal Wedding

What does this mean?

First let us rewind…rewind to the practices, people, process that led up to this Royal Wedding…

What practices? …those are the things that the couple did together or did not  do together that led to creating a level of closeness

Who people? …for starters the couple of course, then their might be friends and family who are also influencing

What process? …actually that should really be processes for plural..the communication process of the couple, the conflict resolution process, the power dynamic process and it goes on and on….

And when all these come together a decision is made to have an event called a wedding…

And our wedding is always a ROYAL wedding…how so?

Because we are always making a decision on that day to

Reap

Our   

Yesterdays

As

A

Lifetime

Yet many of us only focus on having a ROYAL looking wedding..meaning we must look like royalty…and focus little on the patterns of our relationship and whether it is worth committing to such patterns for a lifetime

And sure relationships change,,,but let us be real there is a comfort that comes after a wedding and its called the comfort of marriage..where we expect to a major degree that our partners would not go flipping the script on us…

so do you have your very own Royal Wedding coming up, be sure to consider what the yesterdays were really like and how comfortable you are with those yesterdays becoming your todays and tomorrows https://karryon.privacemail.com/

Richard looked twice…but thought maybe not a little while later there she was…tapping him on his shoulder…Shera..Richard and Shera had not seen each other for some years…they chatted and then Richard gave his number and suggested to Shera she could call sometime…

As time passed along on occasion those odd days of chilling out ..relaxing…lazing around…Shera would try to buzz…most times Richard’s phone would be busy…this happened a few times…Shera would be chilling out..relaxing..lazing around…and give Richard a call and the phone would be busy…Shera thought nothing of it…except she wondered how it never occurred to Richard on one of those occasions to check who might have called…

Time passed and again Shera and Richard met up accidentally ..of course Shera casually commented she called and his phone was actually always busy…

Richard seemed pleased as he smiled and then laughed mildly….

“Oh! that’s how it is..everybody always tells me that…you could probably try calling around…..”

PAUSE…..https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/one-sided-relationship/1269161

Shera looks and feels confused and so asks….”Wait, you don’t call people.” Richard laughs…”most people call me…it’s easier that way…I’m usually so busy” … Shera could not drop the subject..it was so new to her…she then asks …”So what about your girlfriends” Richard again seemed quite pleased and then proudly informed that “actually I’ve always entered relationships after being pursued by girls”

Richard Must-B-Joking…. 

Shera looked at him in shock!

Now there is a level of compromise that is required and healthy in relationships, be it friendships or romantic relationships…

And there is a level of give and take in relationships that is absolutely beneficial to one person while it works to the hurt or disadvantage of the other….and the one in the advantageous or beneficial role often is quite comfortable…

How comfortable are you in your relationship?

Are you with a Richard Must-B-Joking? How has that been working out for you? Do you feel emotionally, mentally and physically drained? https://karryon.privacemail.com/

Yes, yes, yes, it’s that time of year again, it’s Valentine’s Day. Who exactly is this day geared towards? Please not the politically correct answer, could we give the one we instinctively and intuitively know to be true. Okay, for those of us who might need a hint think of the items that are most associated with Valentine’s Day. Now, while we would not want to step on the ladies parade of flowers and roses, might we ask an ever pressing question? When exactly do we give our men some good affectionate attention devoid and divorced from sex? Seriously! It is quite ironic though how many women often complain about the one-track focus of men. Where or how might such a focus be learnt? Let’s explore, shall we?

Why? Hug A Man!

1)   Having a male child

About a few weeks ago during a group discussion a young mother noted that coming from a predominantly female family how she had to learn how to interact and interface with her young son. This mother’s awareness is commendable; however how many of our mothers in our regional female-headed households hold this consciousness?

Some young men in fact too many of our young men might be able to tell the stories of walking in the shadow of an absentee father and getting as little affection even as a young child as their mother’s estranged spouse.

Click the link for more:

http://www.karryonservices.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/2018-Valentine-Day-Affirmative-Action-Hug-a-Man.pdf

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Could we get caught up in a LIP Service Love Insurance Plan as a couple? What does that look or sound like? 

Lots of crap taking place following with lots of pledges of forever love….talk is talk

And even talkers move in together, get married and have children together…the difference usually is in how couples experience their relationships…love relationships are hard work sure…but when you begin to feel like you’re not a trained dentist but ‘pulling teeth’ to keep a relationship going or to keep loving feeling for a partner…well…really what sort of Insurance PLAN are you working with as a couple?

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