Sometimes the message is clear; he or she is showing clearly for one reason or the other they don’t have the heart to love in a real way…and so they do things to sabotage, they run, they turn away
Our personality is built over time, but because we continue to interact with others and our environment generally there is an opportunity for some changes to take place
However, sometimes depending on what was happening in earlier experiences when the base of our personality was being formed we can become stuck in ways of behaving that even though it might be harming us and causing problems in our relationships we refuse to consider making any adjustments to how we do things or operate…
Often in such cases, we would have sought out a partner whose personality is such that they are always adjusting to make their relationships work…
but the thing is that often times for the relationship to have a chance of becoming healthier it also requires some adjusting in the other partner as well…
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Love is a word easily said….
how that word shows itself helps us to know…really know …. if it is healthy or not….
some talk about unexpressed love or not expressing love because of being shy…but there is nothing covert or hidden about healthy love….
but we are so constantly being conditioned by the media to think real love is shown in desire, in strong feeling of fondness/desire/liking/affection that links to sexual attraction/desire and satisfaction…. that we have began to look for those things as our love actions…
What is being loved?
yet a person can ‘love’ what we do for them, ‘love’ how we make them feel, ‘love’ all the possibilities being with us open for them…and never begin to even exercise ‘love’ for the person
Love by any other name….
who talks of caring consideration…there is nothing ‘sexy’ about that is there….but ask the old man who goes to a hospital every morning to have breakfast with his wife who has Alzheimer and says he goes because even though she no longer recognizes him, he still knows who she is…
very often we look back longingly on these older couples, as we watch divorce rates spiral, murder-suicides in the name of love, stalking and revenge porn all from those who ‘love’
But was there caring consideration?
was there a tender thoughtfulness for the other?
was there careful attention that as much as he/she can to attempt to avoid harm and hurt to the other body/mind/spirit
We wonder at what is happening in many love relationships….maybe there was never love in many of those relationships, at least not healthy love, maybe we are fast becoming a sex-filled, loveless relationship-oriented society….. how then do we create real love?
so Ana could not believe after … all the years….
after …all the tears
after..all the shares
how could Dick cheat on her…Dick was his name ironically enough…
but Ana knew what she would do…she must get an ASSISTANT…
what or who would be her assistant …she needed to spy on Dick and discover his deepest longing…giving him his deepest longing would be her ASSISTANT … sure enough Ana discovered that what Dick wanted more than anything was a beautiful bouncing baby girl …Ana and Dick already had a boy…
now how could Ana make this happen? Ana had always heard of these people with special powers and now she needed one…Ana went to the place they told her and got her potion…Dick did not stand a chance
sure enough Ana became pregnant and knowing Dick’s love of family and his desire for a bouncing baby girl she knew she had him….
Welcome beautiful Anabel
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Tune in next Week for Ana and Anabel
Anabel became her assistant since Anabel was to become her Saviour! It is Anabel who would give back to Ana the life again she found when she found her beloved Dick.
As time passed though and Anabel grew Ana realized that her new Assistant could not hold the affections of her beloved…..and so it began threats to end it all…to run away so that Dick could not see Anabel unless…until he ends that affair ….
But did Dick oblige? No…. and so now Ana was not just left with the threat of her dreams falling apart but with a baby who had already outlived her usefulness….now Ana found herself with Postpartum Depression
As a therapist and life-coach it is sad, surprising and amazing how many of us believe in this…
WASTE OF TIME…
Here is why we can NEVER (yes NEVER) WASTE TIME….
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WTH! you think…you have been dating and met quite a few potential partners then suddenly whoop! there it is or here it is …34 and single….
It helps to consider this;
It does not help that;
Moving Beyond 34 and Single;
We each and every one of us would find ourselves on that part of social norms where we are applauded and made to feel good about ourselves and on that part of social norms where we are made to feel partly or feel disappointed or as if we have disappointed.
Create your own life…
“But more than this she did it her way!”….. think that is how the song goes…
shhhh….tell you a secret…the World cannot handle every woman becoming a radical and going against the norms..what would happen to our species … (secret finished) that being said we might be able to appreciate how the social pressures to couple and copulate are actually quite helpful and needful to our species…
It’s nothing personal….
so if you did wake up 34 and single or might be soon…here are some tips;
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Our choice of romantic interest or partner for life can greatly impact our lives in many ways…the greatest of which is “Our Stress Factor” …
Even when we reach that place of realizing the relationship is unhealthy and toxic leaving is a process for which we need be patient with ourselves while also finding the support to actually leave…
How often do we spend our single life fretting or freaking instead of working at dating in a real way by registering our Date IN;
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There are some persons who simply do CHEAT because it meets there needs and is in keeping with the agenda they have for their relationships .. which is to have an insecure “at home” spouse who feels that they are with the most sought after partner and will therefore do anything and or everything to secure and protect the relationship all the while drawing the partner beeper and deeper into a relationship where their mind is being targeted and they are being emotionally abused