Love is a word easily said….
how that word shows itself helps us to know…really know …. if it is healthy or not….
some talk about unexpressed love or not expressing love because of being shy…but there is nothing covert or hidden about healthy love….
but we are so constantly being conditioned by the media to think real love is shown in desire, in strong feeling of fondness/desire/liking/affection that links to sexual attraction/desire and satisfaction…. that we have began to look for those things as our love actions…
What is being loved?
yet a person can ‘love’ what we do for them, ‘love’ how we make them feel, ‘love’ all the possibilities being with us open for them…and never begin to even exercise ‘love’ for the person
Love by any other name….
who talks of caring consideration…there is nothing ‘sexy’ about that is there….but ask the old man who goes to a hospital every morning to have breakfast with his wife who has Alzheimer and says he goes because even though she no longer recognizes him, he still knows who she is…
very often we look back longingly on these older couples, as we watch divorce rates spiral, murder-suicides in the name of love, stalking and revenge porn all from those who ‘love’
But was there caring consideration?
was there a tender thoughtfulness for the other?
was there careful attention that as much as he/she can to attempt to avoid harm and hurt to the other body/mind/spirit
We wonder at what is happening in many love relationships….maybe there was never love in many of those relationships, at least not healthy love, maybe we are fast becoming a sex-filled, loveless relationship-oriented society….. how then do we create real love?