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Self-Love

Love is a word easily said….

how that word shows itself helps us to know…really know …. if it is healthy or not….

Love shy?

some talk about unexpressed love or not expressing love because of being shy…but there is nothing covert or hidden about healthy love….

Love replacements

but we are so constantly being conditioned by the media to think real love is shown in desire, in strong feeling of fondness/desire/liking/affection that links to sexual attraction/desire and satisfaction…. that we have began to look for those things as our love actions…

What is being loved? 

yet a person can ‘love’ what we do for them, ‘love’ how we make them feel, ‘love’ all the possibilities being with us open for them…and never begin to even exercise ‘love’ for the person

Love by any other name….

Caring Consideration

who talks of caring consideration…there is nothing ‘sexy’ about that is there….but ask the old man who goes to a hospital every morning to have breakfast with his wife who has Alzheimer and says he goes because even though she no longer recognizes him, he still knows who she is…

very often we look back longingly on these older couples, as we watch divorce rates spiral, murder-suicides in the name of love, stalking and revenge porn all from those who ‘love’

But was there caring consideration?

was there a tender thoughtfulness for the other?

was there careful attention that as much as he/she can to attempt to avoid harm and hurt to the other body/mind/spirit

We wonder at what is happening in many love relationships….maybe there was never love in many of those relationships, at least not healthy love, maybe we are fast becoming a sex-filled, loveless relationship-oriented society….. how then do we create real love?

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so Ana could not believe after … all the years….

after …all the tears

after..all the shares

how could Dick cheat on her…Dick was his name ironically enough…

but Ana knew what she would do…she must get an ASSISTANT…

what or who would be her assistant …she needed to spy on Dick and discover his deepest longing…giving him his deepest longing would be her ASSISTANT … sure enough Ana discovered that what Dick wanted more than anything was a beautiful bouncing baby girl …Ana and Dick already had a boy…

now how could Ana make this happen? Ana had always heard of these people with special powers and now she needed one…Ana went to the place they told her and got her potion…Dick did not stand a chance

sure enough Ana became pregnant and knowing Dick’s love of family and his desire for a bouncing baby girl she knew she had him….

Welcome beautiful Anabel

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Tune in next Week for Ana and Anabel 

Anabel became her assistant since Anabel was to become her Saviour! It is Anabel who would give back to Ana the life again she found when she found her beloved Dick.

As time passed though and Anabel grew Ana realized that her new Assistant could not hold the affections of her beloved…..and so it began threats to end it all…to run away so that Dick could not see Anabel unless…until he ends that affair ….

But did Dick oblige? No…. and so now Ana was not just left with the threat of her dreams falling  apart but with a baby who had already outlived her usefulness….now Ana found herself with Postpartum Depression

WTH! you think…you have been dating and met quite a few potential partners then suddenly whoop! there it is or here it is …34 and single….

It helps to consider this;

  • you are not alone…unfortunately this is especially true according to statistics for black women
  • trends indicate that many women across ethnicity and countries are coupling/marrying later

It does not help that;

  • the social and familial pressures and expectations remain
  • there might be a personal desire or even life goal that can no longer be met especially if it was one of those SMART  goals set for between 30-35

Moving Beyond 34 and Single;

We each and every one of us would find ourselves on that part of social norms where we are applauded and made to feel good about ourselves and on that part of social norms where we are made to feel partly or feel disappointed or as if we have disappointed.

Create your own life…

“But more than this she did it her way!”….. think that is how the song goes…

shhhh….tell you a secret…the World cannot handle every woman becoming a radical and going against the norms..what would happen to our species … (secret finished) that being said we might be able to appreciate how the social pressures to couple and copulate are actually quite helpful and needful to our species…

It’s nothing personal….

so if you did wake up 34 and single or might be soon…here are some tips;

  • live your life to its fullest and be all you can be
  • understand that while we belong to groups and have things in common with our group in some ways we will be different and that’s okay
  • know that there are now lots more options for dating and mate selection in today’s Worldhttps://karryon.privacemail.com/
  • if fertility and baby making is a concern there are lots of options for that as well…

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Relationships involve give and take and our relationships can only head to ward exceptional when we are both willing and able to give as well as we take. While some say it is better to give than to receive, when it comes to our relationships if or when we do all the giving that better we expect to feel soon goes to ward bitter… before focusing on giving to others in relationships we must first give to ourselves the permission to receive from others in that way while we are giving we will realize when we are being short-changed in a relationship before continuing along and becoming bitter

9 lives …Cats supposedly have … as the human species we are human once on this Earth ..

Curiousity kills the cat … supposedly … as the human beings we are … it is our curiousity that helps us to learn and to learn is to live advance progress and develop if we would chooose .. so we are so much more than simpy a cat  … so act as The  Curious KAT

The Curious KAThttp://www.karryonservices.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/The-Curious-KAT.pdf

Please help others to remain curious ….

Sure it is great to get ahead and sometimes it can feel so great and be such a great opportunity that it seems ago to get ahead at the expense of others in our group but since ahead or not we remain part of the group we actually are moving back and forth all at once .. getting ahead while increasing the risk of falling back behind 

Self-Love and Self-Acceptance on an individual and group level remains essential