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Supporting Mental Health in Children

To some of you parents it might be (alright please, not again). But for many of our children its worth it…

so again what are some other ways to check in or out that your child is being prepared to conquer their World.

Overprotection reaps resistance

As mentioned in an earlier post in this Series, openness to experience and curiosity is all part of being a developing child (hopefully we keep some of it as adults too)

For some children though, everything is all well and good, the openness is there once it is something that was done with parents or within the home… so in other words the child goes out into the school environment partly prepared to benefit from school because their mindset is …

“this is good once it was done before or something like it was done before with the parents” (and we are not talking here about religious restrictions or beliefs)

for example, Johnny is asked to move his hand in square-like motion looking at the drawing of the square (odd request we agree) but the exercise has a purpose … however Johnny gets in a panic and refuses because “you don’t move your hand like a square, you move it in circles, his parents taught him that…. get the point …

While as parents its important to protect and guide its as important to make room for responsible and safe others (such as teachers, coaches etc.) to be able to teach new things which the kids then can take pleasure in teaching parents

Recover & Resilience…good balance

Now take Johnny again but coming from a more balanced experience… he is asked to move his hands in a square-like motion … being new to him, and being guided by his parents that its natural to move his hands in a circle, and being trained to trust his parents…Johnny pauses and wonders about the request… since his parents also communicated to him that he would meet new and sometimes challenging experiences (a lot of which he could handle with a little effort) he giggles and tries …. that is recovery (coming back from the shock of an unexpected request) and resilience (being able to move forward) … Johnny eventually learned the purpose of the exercise and feels proud of himself for trying http://www.karryonservices.com/company-profile/

So how do we get there as parents?

Once children understand the needful in terms of warning signs for if/when an adult is hurting them and what to do.. . then its safe to help them to appreciate how other adults become part of their ‘team’ to help them grow and develop

But truth be told somehttps://www.heysigmund.com/building-resilience-children/times as parents it is we who sometimes need to work a bit more on being able to trust enough to do so.

This year … a bold move for World Mental Health Day…

Right back to the Basics…

Our Young People… 

what, why, where, do we go around thinking that life is all ‘fun and games’ for all our children and upcoming youth…well the info is there before 14 half of mental health concerns show up…

Let us add by around age 7, the personality is formed and fairly stable…

So let’s take it back to basics

Musical Mindset…

  • “tell everybody I reach, I coming inside right now!” … far too often as adults we might not take the time to appreciate just how much children ‘suck up’ the emotional climate of their environment and so we continue on with the conflicts, or whatever is happening…but when that child reaches, the child needs ’emotional safety and calm’ and if the environment is not ready to offer that, well the child literally ‘suffers’ through it but sooner or later the distress would show
  • Back to Basics … one of the biggest safeguards for children and youth is to feel good to say ” I am …. ….” and that comes when we from very early help in developing that pride in how they look, accepting all their thoughts and feelings as important and disciplining always in loving calmness
  • Back to Basics… our children come into a very competitive World but before they can get to that and deal well with it, they need our support through connection to bring forward their creativity that would point out their unique skills and talents
  • Back to BASICS… really take in the video… our objective is to basically keep children for the main part happy… not happy as in spoilt…but happy as in finding awe interest wonder and pleasantness as the learn and experience life
  •  Back to BASICS… “way before Facebook could post it…” far too many of our children are crying out for attention and connection on the social media… way before Facebook, there was family-time, chats with children by allowing them to feel free to approach us the adults

#WorldMentalHealthDAy 2018

Sometimes people grow up experiencing extreme abuse and or neglect…

Eventually, these persons grow up with an “emptiness in the pit of their stomachs” feeling unlovable, unworthy, and so wanting to be loved, that they become whoever their partner desires…

The thing with this is for these persons, there is no love within, only the love from without, their partners and sometimes children that make life seem worth living…

and so the feeling if ever there is even a mild conflict, is that life is no longer worth living…

and if ever a partner does anything to threaten the relationship, these persons seek the ultimate way for their partner to prove their love…

They declare “if you leave me I will kill myself” … the idea is for the partner to prove their love for them, by staying with them, be saving their life literally…

At times if the relationship really shows no chance, these persons adopt an approach of “I will kill me to hurt you!” …

#mentalhealthchallenges need more than a partner who is manipulated … often the issue is a lack of #selflove #selfworth and finding a reason for life beyond or in addition to their main #realtionship…

It’s #WorldSuicidePreventionDay!

We all want our children to sing a song sounding like this, don’t we? 

Yet the thing is that many of us parents miss the red flags!

it is easy to get so bogged down, working hard to make sure our children have all the needed products that we forget that that is really only the beginning… and that there

MUST be an activating activity or activities that prepare the child to benefit from wherever they might find themselves,  

so as children head back out to school, what activities have we had with them to prepare them to get ready… have we asked how school is going from the child’s point of view? have we helped that child to understand what is required of them? have we considered some of the things that need to be dealt with that might distract them from benefiting from what they need to be doing in school?

otherwise like in this video we only get a half-way result!

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Teacher Appreciation Week…

let us be honest shall we…its really more like lecturer appreciation week,

for our World filled with focus on fame and glory, neglect the beginning phases and focus on the end where we read of the success story,

So the higher the schooling time, the more we praise and let that teacher/lecturer shine,

Yet how ironic it is, that the first two years makes a difference between a resilient child, an emotionally at risk child and one with the full potential to be a wiz, the first 7 years the personality has some solid traits that will basically play a big part in working toward future grades

Yet we focus on the big and often forget the small or reverse the idea of the contributing factor to the child potential

So this Teacher Appreciation Week how about we seek to really discover how children develop and the great significance of the fact that we walk only after we creep and if you have a little one that is quite small, do not wait until later to really pick up the ball simply to be focused on seeing his/her name on that wall, for by the time they hit 9 and 10 and beyond the ground work has a lot to do with what is or is not going on….

Happy Teachers Week to one and all and especially to those who work with the #small

Try as Ana May might she was unable to pull from her beloved Dick the love and commitment she wanted from her relationship and her Anabel was not doing the trick…

Postpartum ….

This was no ordinary postpartum but the type that came because of a mourning for a relationship that was …the type that came because the child trick had not worked ..

so “I starve you starve”

Anabel would now become exposed to what Ana was exposed to as a child…

NOT being loved for the essence of who they were but being loved if and only if…

Anabel got love when or if her baby actions were interpreted as comforting Ana

Anabel got love when or if someone mentioned how much she resembled her daddy

Anabel got love when or if Ana needed to feel indispensable…

(outside of that Anabel was deemed a nuisance and a trigger for Ana May’s postpartum depression …she took time away from Ana May being able to mourn and track down her Dick)

Without realizing it Anabel was creating another her…another woman who was being conditioned from early that they were not worthy of love just because they were naturally worthy but only when or if they made the object of their desire happy..only if or when they worked tirelessly to please the object of their affections and even so another woman was being conditioned that no matter what they did they would never become loved for who they were in a real way for they were always there to simply be useful to another just as Anabel was a tool to save a relationship

The truth can be a bitter pill but it can also be our saving grace if worked through….What would become of Ana May….

Tune in next week for more as Ana May goes back in time 

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if you are a parent struggling to not do what Ana May is doing listen here

It is the right of each child to be given a safe and healthy environment for their development….

do we really know how many children are abused Worldwide? Too Many!

are we aware of how many people abused as children develop mental health concerns? Too Many!

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Some have even suggested that from even in the womb children begin responding to sounds…. no surprise then by the time they reach around 4 years of age they begin speaking to themselves based on who they think they are… very important that they keep thinking of themselves in mostly positive ways even while acknowledging that they might make mistakes or do naughty things at times…

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And tune in later for more on Helping Activate Youth

Of course we do not want our children left behind….from early they need to get acquainted with their scientific and technology world…

so books and library visits out the door huh….

https://www.thecaribbeancurrent.com/love-library-returning-old-lol-new-generation/

think again and again… their mental health and wellbeing just might depend on it…

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